So there's a first time for everything, after just finishing reading 'the game' like i'm certain so many of you have done, i've decided to attempt to get involved in a more dynamic exploration of the PUA community.

A little about me, i'll try and emulate here, the introduction technique Style and Mystery use with their pupils as it seems to have served them well.

Me
I'm Julian, a 22 year old from Sydney, Australia. I would describe myself as impetuous, deeply caring and reasonably funny.

I feel like i should steer away from the 'what do you do?' type questions because there is more to it than that. but i feel that what i do engenders so much of my identity at the moment i can't leave it out. And since i have very little social confidence as is i'm kinda clinging to these with an air of desperation.

I'm currently in my 5th year of a degree in Medicine, with any luck in a few years ill be a surgeon.
I'm a fairly decent drummer, guitarist and DJ. Plenty of friends come to me for music and parties etc.
I'm a pretty decent dancer (the rhythm goes with the drumming and djing) and i've been complemented on this a number of times by friends or people i've recently met. I'm always the first guy my friends grab if they want to dance.

Appearance -

I'm about 180cm, reasonably fit but not muscular. White skin with freckles and red hair (thats right... a ginga). Because of this you can imagine the usual fucking bullshit that gets spun my way because of it. And i wont deny for a second that i have serious appearance issues associated with it (perhaps from 20+ years of ridicule)

A bit about my history and current frustrations-
I had a gf for 3 years from when i was 16 onwards. After that relationship ended and i got over being an emotional trainwreck i have not had a single relationship, kiss, nothing in the last 3.5 years and as a result have been fairly depressed about it.


What i want to get out of the idea of the PUA community?

I'm not really after sex, just the confidence to be able to pursue a relationship or sexual interaction (anything from simply holding hands to a full close)

I am constantly out with friends who pick up at the drop of a hat (guys and girls) and i never understand why i am always on the outside.... the one left at the end of the night with noone as everyone else pairs up.... its so frustrating and emotionally damaging it usually ruins every single night i go out.


So long winded i know but i hope some of you had the time to read it.

Looking foward to chatting to you all and sharing experiences. If you have any suggestions as to where to get involved please let me know.


Pyro!

Sup pyro welcome! An Aussie too!

One bit of advice is don't let your nights out be ruined by not getting a girl. Go out to have fun first and talk to lots of girls but don't let your happiness be dependent on them.
The more women you talk to the more chance you have and the less you care about the outcome the more success you will have.

Sounds confusing and a paradox but if you have a mentality of abundance and fun it'll be easier to get women.

You'll have ups and downs but stick with it!

Welcome to the forums Pyro

Hey Pyro. You'll get a lot of help here. Find yourself a wingman and get out there!

Nick