Guys I need some advice..

Here is the story in brief. I work as a session musician in london and a couple of weeks ago I did a musical, there was a girl in the company unbelievably fit but I didn't have the courage to speak to her, and she never really socialised with the band. I added her to facebook and I asked her if she would be willing to sing in my band which she is well up for, but the big international gigs aren't for a few months. I had a chat on facebook about the upcoming gigs last week with her but I don't really know how to move this forward with her over chat any ideas?

Cheers Jonny

Looks like you have some serious speed-learningto do.
From the sounds of it you are starting from scratch. If you attempt to 'woo' this girl without knowledge of demonstrating value and creating attraction, your hollywood instilled notions of how to woo a girl using romance will fuck you up and you will embarass yourself.

Fear not! We were all here once and you can become a sexy, attractive guy who is 'socially awesome' as Kowalski would put it

Tip 1: Read each and every thread you possibly can on this forum. Spend every spare moment you get learning how to be, how to act and how to make you the alpha male. Pring some threads out if you want and read them whilst you take a shit.

Tip 2: Get your hands on some DVD's/seminars. I recommend RSD Blueprint decoded by Tyler Durden for more advanced natural stuff. Apparently Transformations is good and there is loads of stuff out there. Ask on here if you're unsure of what to get.

Tip 3: Get out there into bars and clubs and practice this shit. Just approach girls. Fuck rejection, you will never see any of them ever again. NOTHING MATTERS. You will experience anxiety, but you need to overcome it and remember that it's all just a game.

Have fun!!!

Listen to twisted he speaks the truth if you want a quick fix for just one girl then it probably won't happen there isn't a magic pill but if you do as twisted says you will end up not only getting success with women but also be happier and get more from life.

And the blueprint is awesome highly reccommended

I always found facebook as abit of "hold ya back" type of way of attracting girls as they cnt see how you would react around them and messages can be misread, I would suggest that you meet face to face like go for a drink nuothing that involves a barrier between you and her e.g dinner tables etc to "discuss" about these gigs then you can start running game.

I fully appreciate it though because I was there at one point but u can learn quickly.. just do what Twisted said and you will be fine!

Cheers for the tip on RSD blueprint wil have to get that one.

Flush

Cheers guys I'll get stuck into this material.... I talked to her a little tonight on the chat and it was fucking awful, I sounded so dull.. I think i'm just going to take the bull by the horns on this one and ask her out for a drink, if she says no it's her loss.

Guys do you have any links to the dvds i've tried to find torrents but none of them seem to be active, where else can I get hold of them?

Cheers

Will shoot you a PM on that now.
What you were saying about asking her for a drink: putting it like that will demonstrate low value. It's giving her the power and she's in control. Instead, mention that a few of you are partying this Saturday and ask if she wants to come along. If she declines, be like "cool, gimme a buzz if you change your mind." Then leave it to her to come back to you. Do not pursue her, instead make out you're having a great time with or without her and if she wants to tag along that's fine. Also, do NOT attempt to be her best friend and fly under her radar. Lots of guys fall into this trap and it virtually never works. She will see you like a brother.

Feel free to come back here for advice as and when.

Twisted,

Well said about going out with the friends thing should have out that in there!!

Flush

I apologize for being so late, but I'm new! I'm sure you've already moved onto bigger and better things. However, here's a couple of pointers you might consider should something similar happen again.

1) No matter how shy or timid you feel, approach her--especially if she's showing interest. A great way to build confidence is to gaze at her. If she catches your eye and smiles, GAME ON!

2) IF you have no choice but to take the game to Facebook, it's okay! (Trust me, I know Sounds to me like you did a good job at introducing yourself once you made it to FB. Good. However, women are smarter than we give them credit for. She has likely already assumed that you didn't write her on FB JUST b/c you wanted her to sing in the band. While an exchange or two about the band is okay, it is your DUTY to take her OFFline. After some "band chat" shift the conversation to talking about her: about her life, what she does (school/work), and THEN about what she does for fun. Then offer to exchange numbers and carry the conversation to the phone.

3) Carry the phone call to the date. Return to familiar subjects, make her laugh and maintain an aura of mystery. Be laid back. Keep the phone call short and propose a time for you and her to hang out.

More info on my book at the website below. Hope its going well for ya!