Hi all!
So I met this girl on POF, got on great, and agreed to keep it relaxed
I guess it did get a little bit serious, and I guess that's why things grated on each other...ie.finding annoying things about each other lol

I deleted my profile after meeting her....she didnt and lately thought I'd see if she's been on, and it seems she has quite regularly.....so maybe she's seeing other guys

My question is, has it happened to you, why do you think, and what did you do?

I suppose it's since we're not getting on so well

Its happend to me. but I didnt delete my profile so it didnt offend me that she still had her profile

its hard to judge your situation without knowing you both. have you slept with this girl yet ? If you havnt then i guess your still friends so its no harm for her to stil lbe on the site.

I find allot of girls on the site just like all the attention and logging into their profile to find 50+ messages of guys.

I wouldnt over think it, Just be cool and dont mention to her that you have noticed her profile is still up. Perhaps reactivate yours ?

I have yes, she did mention she wasnt sure if/when I considered us to be more together, rather than friends with benefits
I forgot to say it was actually the 'naughty' section of the site

I'm not offended she hasn't deleted, as I guess I did't rule it out for myself, I hate to be a hypocrite lol
Just gets me wondering...did you find out if she was seeing others?
From what I've heard most half decent girls get a million messages lol

have you two arranged to meet up again ? if so then good times and enjoy the friends with benefits then, She may be meeting other guys but I wouldn't dwell on it. Rubber up and give her the best seeing too she has ever had !

Im a massive hypocrite when it comes to things like that... Yea i found out that she was talking and arranging to meet someone else....the other person she was going to meet was a friend of mine who was also on POF!

Yes, we've been out loads of times, stayed at hers...maybe yes, I should take a step back and enjoy, rather than getting bogged down

Initially I thought..WHAT!! Damn....and then I thought ahh well lol

No way!?
So what happened??

I have a female friend who has a POF account, and she told me she never messages anyone back and she just likes the "feel good" messages she gets complimenting her etc.

cha, why don't you both just talk about this?

Also some food for thought:
Maybe she has the mobile app which probs leaves her "online" a lot.
Maybe she is checking to see if you have an account and if you still log in and is wondering if you are meeting others?
Maybe she is meeting other dudes because you haven't addressed this issue with her..

And also, think about why you feel insecure at this early stage in the relationship.. what if she has male friends? What if she had strippers at her hen night when you get married? What if she wants a threesome? Deal with this EARLY to avoid potential future conflict and shit.

You clearly want "mutually exclusivity" so you need to voice this to her

maybe get a second friend with benefits and enjoy the good times ? have you two agreed not to see other people ? Maybe just talk it out with her as the whole thing could be a misunderstanding and she only checks her messages out of boredom?

Out of curiosity how old is she ?

I once was meeting a girl from pof each weekend. met each others parents..was all casual. One day I was driving to work and when I stopped at the lights I seen her in a school outfit crossing the road.....Major bad times

Well my friend wasn't aware that id been seeing her. I told him and he didnt message her. Im lucky to still have some good friends!

Alpha....
Maybe the post came across wrong, I'm not feeling insecure, just intrigued I guess, at what others do if something like this arises
I know she has male friends, and I prefer a girl to, since most of my friends are girls (from dance class, sister etc) so they're on the same level of understanding

Shes a few years older than me, 28

Ninja- ouch! haha funny though

good times!

Ah fair enough

I think you should think about your own values and if any of it does bother you / make you uncomfortable / insecure.. think about why you feel that way and if it is rational thinking...

But I still think, either talk to her and leave it "unknown" or voice it and you can live guilt free that you can fuck other girls