Day 2 worries

[Lovefish]

Im hooking up with a really hot chick 2mora.Im taking her to buy some clothes and have lunch with me.
However all day ive had the whole thing running though my head different scenarios,what id say to her, blah blah blah
Its gay im all in my own head and projecting into 2mora.
Its definately a scarcity mindset,is there any good sugestions of how to turn off and accept i cant do anything till im there and if i blow it i blow it and to not be afraid of that.
Otherwise ill not sleep tonight and itl be the same story up until i meet her 2mora
I think its could be cos shes the hottest chick ive ever got this far with before??

[chops147]

the way I see it is it's like in the matrix you've already made the decision.

you are a product of everything that has happened in you life. if something happens you will react a certain way.

all you can do is with the now you could read some pick up material, pick an outfit decide where to go. These are controllable variables.

when you meet concentrate on your body language more than anything.

maybe you could write down some conversation topics.

check out some funny shit on the internet so you can talk about it.

e.g

Pointless Sites - Useless Sites - Random websites - PointlessSites.com

just remember keep it on positive things cos when she's looking back on the interaction you don't want it to be about fears of the collapsing economy.

talk about beautiful things.

[chops147]

oh and you can't predict the future so don't even try.

go with the flow if it goes wrong then that's just the way the cookie crumbles like in poker take your losses with grace.

you have nothing to lose really you don't have her now so if it goes tits up you still don't have her and thus have lost nothing.

[Lovefish]

Cheers man
Thats what ill do.I already had my outfit sorted since yesterday all the way down to the socks haha
As for body language personal challenge of the week is to walk with my shoulders wide and avoid slumping and being round shouldered.
Ive just put pen 2 paper and ive realized im being overly outcome dependant as well as overly concerned with my lack of experience plus scared this dry spell is going to stretch on forever gah i think i just need to use this as a fun learning day nothing more.
I also spoke to my bud 2.He said keep up beat and funny,try to get some kino going.Plus leave first!! he said its like when u watch a band play if they do a short set u always want an encore,then run home n check em out on the net.But even if the best band drags on forever everyone leaves the gig before theyre finished playing!!

[chops147]

that's a fair point.

I always think it's best not to think too much cos it can really fuck you up.

if you're any good at dancing that's a great way to break tension. the first words are always the hardest after that you can usually get a good convo going as long as she has something to say too. remember if it goes silent you don't always have to be the one to fill the void.

[Lovefish]

haha tell me about it,i seem to over think everything.
Err dancing in a town centre in the afternoon on a saturday?! maybe itl work haha
Im not a bad dancer and im starting going street dance classes as of next week so that will only improve
Ive already built a bit of a rapore with her,stupid nick names she loves motorbikes i do 2,talked about going to Germany together her on the back of my bike etc
So pretty good.Im not worried about talking at all i can do that.Its changing it up from good laugh matey to something more,im not used to touchy feely so kino is a concern.It would kill me to fall into the friends box yet again gah

[chops147]

when you meet her go for the hug then the old skool arm lock walk thing.

once you've broken the touching barrier it just feels more natural.

try to talk more about going round the world on bikes. cos she'll be thinking of the two of you in those situations and her subconscious will think they actually happened.

I once was talking to someone online about going round the world together talking about all the adventures wee'd get into and the next day she said "it's weird I've never met you in person but somehow I miss you"

[chops147]

don't use that convo as a crutch though.

[Maxemillion]

dont spend the whole time thinking about your shoulders

[AJay]

fuckit youll do fine!!! JUST THINK FUCKIT!!!!!

AJay