the ultimate amog

[coolblackguy]

Wassup ppl cbg here and I really need some advice on this problem I'm having. Even though it's got noting to do with my game (which by the way is going pretty well, I am currently having so much fun it's unreal) it's really bothering me.

My problem is with the ultimate amog, my big brother (he's 21, I'm 18). Just a quick back story our relationship has never been great (not terrible but more tolerance than love). I think he's quite insecure because almost every waking minute he constantly talks about me in a very negative way almost as if too feel good about himself. He'll tell my mum and sister how useless i am, how I'm messy and untidy, how I contribute nothing to this family etc and whatever else he can think of (which by the way is all bullshit trust me). But worst of all he loves to argue in public, which is something i hate (i personally think what happens at home stays at home). So here's my problem, before i got into the game I use to argue back an forth whenever he randomly started criticising me, But now after reading about inner game and it's teachings of being able to rise above negativity and be the type of person who is unaffected by negative people and whatever they have to say about you. I have began trying to be the type of person they talk about.

But ever since I started to try and ignore all his bitchy comments and snide remarks they just seem to have intensified, and now he analyses absolutely everything i do looking for some way to put me down. Even though I try so hard to ignore him, I just cant seem to rise above it and end up getting sucked in to having a pointless argument.

I seriously dont know what to do any more, I cant just move away from him because we live in the same house and i know your probably thinking just ignore him but it feels like whenever you show disinterest to a girl; they just want your attention more and more, so now he talks about me almost constantly. Any advice or feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Punch him in the face.

[coolblackguy]

lol trust me I tried that many times, I don't mind fighting him infact we use to do it all the time. The problem is it doesn't solve anything but most importantly it puts a massive strain on my mum who already has high blood pressure. So I kinda need a non violent solution to this problem.

Bang his mum? Oh wait..

Bang his girlfriend/fuck buddy/best female friend
Intellectually outsmart him at everything on every level
Everytime he says something, think of a comeback. If you can't think of one, just stare at him blankly. Or just act like he doesn't exist. Like literally, act like he isn't even in the same house.

Alternatively. Play dirty. Practical jokes. Glue his phone to the table. Put itching powder in his underwear. If you wana go extreme, put laxatives in his cup of tea you make him.. then when he is on the shitter, shout in to him "Seems you have a big problem there bro, hope it wasn't from the tea I made you"

[Zed]

Its a phase.

I had to do this with a friend who I work with every day (and see most weekends).

I ignored. He intensifed. I ignored. He intensified more. I ignored. He got bored.

[SmileyK]

As these lot said man - keep ignoring it, walk away if you need to, just don't react to it. It will be tough, but on the flip side think that you must be definitely doing something positive with your life to be getting all this hate. Hopefully he will soon see sense and want to talk to you in a more constructive manner.

[AJay]

Everytime he says something about you reply with this "i agree with you 100%, thank you ever so much for pointing it out to me"..... even if you dont agree.

I wouldnt ignore him completely like some may advise, enless it really doesnt affect you. But its obvious it gets to you. The worst advice they give to kids in school who are bullied is to just ignore it and eventually it will stop. Even though this method will eventually work it doesnt stop the negative emotions eating away at the person inside. By reacting in a smart non violent way it will give you a feeling of rising above the other person and will make you feel in complete control, you do have to defend yourself.

AJay

[dan300]

i get the vibe that ur the cooler brother

dont worry about it

he is probably gay anyway

Originally Posted by dan300

i get the vibe that ur the cooler brother

dont worry about it

he is probably gay anyway

Case in point: Watch the film "Sex Drive" (I think that's the one) where the dude going on vacation has an aggressive brother that always amogs him, in the end turns out he is happily gay

Also: K is right, family and school is different. In school, ignoring it is bad advice.. good advice would be to watch the film "The Final". They show true revenge!

[piers147]

Originally Posted by coolblackguy

Wassup ppl cbg here and I really need some advice on this problem I'm having. Even though it's got noting to do with my game (which by the way is going pretty well, I am currently having so much fun it's unreal) it's really bothering me.

My problem is with the ultimate amog, my big brother (he's 21, I'm 18). Just a quick back story our relationship has never been great (not terrible but more tolerance than love). I think he's quite insecure because almost every waking minute he constantly talks about me in a very negative way almost as if too feel good about himself. He'll tell my mum and sister how useless i am, how I'm messy and untidy, how I contribute nothing to this family etc and whatever else he can think of (which by the way is all bullshit trust me). But worst of all he loves to argue in public, which is something i hate (i personally think what happens at home stays at home). So here's my problem, before i got into the game I use to argue back an forth whenever he randomly started criticising me, But now after reading about inner game and it's teachings of being able to rise above negativity and be the type of person who is unaffected by negative people and whatever they have to say about you. I have began trying to be the type of person they talk about.

But ever since I started to try and ignore all his bitchy comments and snide remarks they just seem to have intensified, and now he analyses absolutely everything i do looking for some way to put me down. Even though I try so hard to ignore him, I just cant seem to rise above it and end up getting sucked in to having a pointless argument.

I seriously dont know what to do any more, I cant just move away from him because we live in the same house and i know your probably thinking just ignore him but it feels like whenever you show disinterest to a girl; they just want your attention more and more, so now he talks about me almost constantly. Any advice or feedback would be greatly appreciated.

[i] have a brother that sounds very familar but we have fallen out due to him being a twat he sounds just like my brother very conflicting when i say black he will say white just to get a reaction we used to get on but over the years we now dont speak to each other due to a huge argruement as the man constanly argues over very trivail things i basicly said.

If i never see you again in my life that suits me find you are a demented frus stated little man funny when we played squash as i was very good played for my hometown i had to give him a handicap the dude would lose then have the nearve to lecture about my game i would say quite carmly shut the fuck up you dont lecture the guy that has just won.

But seroiusly your brother is probaly jealous your getting some fanny its all down to being insecure your brother sound disrespectful and hell in a few years you may just dicide cut them out of your life if they continue or just wont change then say you continue with this i will cut you out off my life.