Discussion on another forum about the old "aplha' chesnut which was basically the scientific definition from wikipedia.
It got me thinking and I posted the following reply, which I hadn't ever thought out properly until I wrote it. Now that I have, I'd like to hear what some of the more natural, confidence and self-improvement crowd on here think of it. Strongly suspect I'll be shouted down on the other forum.
"Agree fully with Luke Blue Rain here,
The notion of ‘Alpha’ in the
PUA community is very much overstated and points toward a wider problem with a lot of the material.
There is so much intellectually weak backwards rationalizing and concept transfer that goes on – or to put it more concisely : BAD SCIENCE.
PUA is a humanist discipline, it pulls its information from psychology, anthropology, sociology, evolutionary theory and (less often) quantum physics. It is very rare indeed that any of the principles that are used in
PUA are ever fully understood or fully relevant. They are largely used by people who have figured out how to be good with women and wish to over-intellectualize the process after the fact – there is nothing wrong with this but it does lead to some rather simplistic notions of what constitutes ‘creating attraction’.
For example, the logic might run something like:
1) From an evolutionary perspective women seek men who can provide them with healthy offspring – traditionally this role would have been filled by ALPHA males, characterized by strength, power, dominance, overt leadership and the respect of the group.
THEREFORE:
Replicating these qualities is essential in success within
PUA.
However,
1a) Although those qualities are attractive to a degree, they have to be modulated through aeons of sociological development and evolution, society no longer necessarily values these qualities over a much deeper and more complex mix that needs to include empathy, humour, irony, a sense of the absurd, a knowledge and awareness of cultural symbols and an ability to manipulate them at the right times – these are just a few examples.
Ever gone into set and ended up feeling ‘over aggressive’ ‘negged too hard’ ‘ amoged by someone less dominant’?
This is why – you HAVE been alpha, but your notion of what ALPHA means is so simplistic as to render you in a beta role almost immediately. You won at your game – but no one else was playing.
THIS IS NOT PARTICULAR TO THE
PUA COMMUNITY,
It is also at the heart of a lot of nonsense ‘self help’ fads (sometimes the similarities to
pua are depressing). Take for example, the notion of ‘positive thinking’ ‘ power of attraction’ ‘ the body as energy’ and all of the rest of that stuff.
It is argued that the basis for this is scientific. And to an extent it is, but they human mind seems to have a need to push the scientific into the realm of the human. ‘The power of attraction’ is true, BUT ONLY WHEN REALTED TO THE BEHAIVOUR OF ELECTRONS AND MOLECULES AS OBSERVED IN A SPECFIC DATA ENVIRONMENT – it does not apply to wealth, sex or your family life, infact research shows that better outcomes actually arise from negative thinking… i.e. What will my life be like if I don’t change job/partner etc.. rather than visualizing yourself in an imagined positive future (this can lead to living in a dream-life, full of fantasy but devoid of action)
So, in short, it is a lot more complicated than the material will have you believe, but on the other hand it is based on a solid simplicity that can only be accessed through the simple gestures that in themselves contain so much data as to be impossible to summarise.
Just say hello to her, smile, have confidence in who and what you are – it doesn’t make you beta, it doesn’t make you an AFC, it just means you are well on your way to having positive relationships.
Until the next e-book is published of course …..
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