Once you have the money, don't allow her to play games by making some or all of her profile unviewable just delete her outright stop fucking about it sends a very clear message you move on and she probably won't expect you to do that.

EDIT: Actually I've just realised what I wrote you've probably deleted her already, you're refering to searching, right? and I used to be a fb PUA, D'oh!!

Lol yeah she deleted me when we ended.. so I just mean if she tries to view my profile (as a non-friend) she can't see anything apart from my picture and my relationship status. I could go further by blocking her completely and I would be invisible to her?

Her profile has been visible to everyone since we split up, and this weekend she made it so I can't see her wall. I'm glad really, cos to be honest I did used to check every now and again, and now I can't

After thinking back over the last few weeks, my spirits remain usually quite high and I don't feel down that much. And by the way, I downloaded that social mastery DVD by love systems and some of it seems quite cool.

Ive been split with my ex for 3 years, id check on her profile every day to see she was ok.
i knew deep down i needed to delete her but i never did

Soon as i landed in Phils gaff he made me delete her!

I guess its easier for me cos she said "Don't ever speak to me again" and she also deleted me straight away..

Back on topic of the original post, What do you do when they start getting all emotional and asking where things are going? What if they ask if you're just using them? Things like that.. I'm not used to banging chicks whilst I'm single, I've had a girlfriend for the majority of time since being 14..

This comes back to authenticity again. You need to turn the thinking down and turn the emotions up, OP. Where she said "shady" I'd have looked her bang in the eye and confidently said "I can't stand it, you're driving me nuts" or something like that, and then overwhelmed her with genuine lust. This places the blame on her for being hot, which makes her feel confident enough in herself as well as in your attraction for her, that she will let things happen, she'll get swept up in it. I think we misperceive these coy little games, it's not actual logical resistance, she wants you to want her, it's all part of the dance of winding you up until you just have to fuck her because you can't take it anymore. Enjoy that aspect of it, just know where you're going with it.

PS

Thanks PS, you're right, and I was immensely turned on I just wanted to bang her there and then! Next time she comes over, I'm going for it!!!

Stand her up, turn her round, push her into the wall... get your body close up to her and start biting her shoulders

rubbin your hands on the inside of her thighs then away.... keep doin that untill she is DYIN for u to touch her

turn her round then kiss her...

bam sex is easy

Come on your Alpha D right?

Alpha's assume attraction and assume she wants it and why wouldn't she? There is no reason.

I cannot stress enough the importantance of sexual confidence, if you project this belief she will be drawn in and won't resist, incidently, if she does STOP right there and back off. You can get away with the most craziest things if she gets brought into this strong reality, you can take her lead her out of the club and tell her you're going to her place and she'll just stand in the street and nod.

In short don't give her the decision making power, make her mind up for her. Despite his lack of finesse, Phil seems to pretty good at this, maybe get his input.

EDIT looks like he has ha

There's two routes you can go down with the using thing:

Make a joke out of it (which is what the books recommend)

or

Be sincere, ask her why she thinks that, ask her what she wants, say thats cool, then continue with whatever you want.

Most of all, don't worry about it.

You're not using them, (whatever that means), but you're both enjoying time spent together.

If not, that's cool. Then leave it.

I'm guna do that.

I told her to stay over on Fri or Sat night, she won't commit until earlier to the day, which I just shrug off as cool, cos I know she will anyways. And if not, plenty more fish in the sea..

Edit:

Yeah Knave, I dno what was up with me. I wasn't acting needy or anything like that.. I just wasn't being dominant enough that night.
I could tell she was in to me, should have responded more to be honest.

But next time

And thanks Zed, not really sure how to make a joke out of that without making her feel insulted or small?

Generally I'm not unhappy with the outcome of the night, yeah I didn't get sex but it was fun all in all. Next time, I'm having her!