Hi everyone

I have recently figured this world and i completely new.
A bit about myself I am 24 year old guy from India been in London for a year. I am a student.
My problem is have a massive fear of talking to people i dont know. I am very uncomfortable in groups. after reading quite a bit about daygame strategies and routines I can barely have enough courage to ask a girl for directions. I have been with only one girl in my life and she was my girlfriend for a year. I get highly self conscious about everything that I am.
I just came home from meeting a friend and on the way back I asked a girl on the bus stop if bus 53 has gone and she replied with a smile. Instead of carrying on with the conversation i chose to walk away and sit somewhere and then we got on the same bus and i again drew courage to sit next to her but here is the gruesome part. i dint say a word for 30 minutes till she got off and left. I feel so sorry for myself. I have a major problem of talking to people. I dont want to have sex or kiss or any of that shit. I just wanna be able to talk to girls and groups of people and be more involved instead of sulking in the aftermath.
If there is anyone out there who can help me I would really appreciate it.

Thanks
Rocket

U don't need PUA...

Instead try Meetup.com for London, or go to classes for your hobby, join a sports team in something u r interested in.

Then get socialising.

It would be easier for u to initially take friends u already know with u to a social event but u should go with view to ask your more confident friends to introduce u to the random new people that they meet as part of the social event.

Seems to me you have been subject to harsh social conditioning from an early age. Possible that you may have been bullied as a kid or had quite a few negative social experiances (or not enough) when young, this has a massive impact on you as an adult. Even events that occurd when you were as little as 5 years old.

So now it makes it difficult for you to socialise? Your brains emotional survival circuitry has been programmed to respond in a certain way from all your previous social interactions.

To overcome this emotion you feel in social situations that prevent you from being who you want to be ,you have to take baby steps. You need to reprograme your emotional circuitry to respond differently. (doesnt happen over night)

Try and get out with friends on nights out and shit as much as possible. It will be alot easier for you to talk to others and meet woman when you are friends with you.

Approaching a woman on the street and picking her up is ballsy stuff mate, proberly near the top end of the table on whats hard to do socially!! so dont panic!!

You have come to the right place, this place will help you learn to fight your inner demons and become what you want to be. Pickup is much more than just how to pickup girls... Its how to pickup yourself!

You may have social anxiety disorder, which is much more common than people would think.

http://www.social-anxiety.org.uk/

maybe that website will help???

Anyway keep checking back here coz theres all sorts of funny,exciting and helpful shit posted on here daily!

AJay

thanks for your reply, really appreciate it but i dont understand why you think that PUA is not for me. Is it wrong in PUA to just have a conversation with someone even though I am not tryin to pick them up. If I approach 100 people I might find someone who I actually like right?
Even though what you are saying is absolutely right I dont deny that. Are there any books or websites you can recommend so that I can enhance my social interactions?

thanks for your reply buddy
maybe you are right to certain extent about my childhood but when i was going out with this girl I never really thought of it so much but after having grown in that relationship (A LOT) i tend to have a complete different approach on women and life. you can say i was a lot ignorant before but now i am more aware of where i come from. i dont really know if that even matters in PUA but i am sure i need to get over that as i dont see any harm in making interesting conversations with strangers. i had problems talking to people in authority as well but now I doing really well on that front. its just women that still give me the creeps. i am a nice guy this thing in my mind which goes against me every single time needs to be rooted out. Yesterday on a friends suggestion i asked a random girl if she had 10 pence and she stumbled and within in a second i said no im just joking and she dint really mind and started laughing. there are so many people out there and i believe if i dont get over this fear now i never will.
will you teach me this art?

Through PUA yes you will meet some cool guys and make friends, but you will also walk up to a chick and she`ll tell you to drop dead.
can you handle that? -- it can be a harsh place.

If its just woman you need help with then thats great, but you must be fine with all other social interaction first. From your first message it was difficult to understand your exact circumstances, now youve posted this reply it seems your not as bad i previously percieved.... anyway, it seems like you have been in a relationship for so long and now you just feel lost since youve come out of it,,,,,, im with you on this one, i was in a relationship for 4 years and when i came out i hadnt a clue how to talk to woman! hence why i came here. I read this book the other day, its good to boost your confidence and will help you toward sexual enlightenment!!

How To Become An Alpha Male - John Alexander - xboyxlk - Trance (download torrent) - TPB

AJay

it does sound scary mate, but if i dont try, i will never know.

Carpe Diem

Become conscious of your own inaction. Realise that inaction has the same result as rejection. By failing to act you are guaranteeing nothing.

Once you've realised this and can consciously see when you're doing it you can start slapping yourself out of it and forcing yourself to do what is in fact healthier for you. Taking those opportunities and moments that you were otherwise allowing to pass by due to fear. Unique moments that will never happen again.

really appreciate it mate. got the books.
time for homework