Ok so ive heard a couple of people on here are ruthless regarding NOT chasing girls.
Phil/Legend and Jaz -- ie send them a txt and delete their number

So...hot chick goes on a night out, gets chatted up a bit and gives her number out 3 times.

2 guys txt her the next day
you txt her a few days later

Good or bad on your part??? why?
in the couple of days before you txt her she has already got a txt banter going with one of those guys. - is it too late for you?

You txt her somthing random and dont get a responce, so you delete her number.

is this girl more likely to date the chaser or the non chaser?

I come at this from the angle of chasing-- i do tend to end up chasing girls a lot (the ones i am interested in) which irritates me, also yes ok i end up bedding some of these girls but it never goes anywhere.

I guess if you are out there getting lots of numbers fairly regularily then you can afford not to chase and the ones that chase you, are definately interested.

what do you guys think?
Will a hot 'bird' with an abundance of guys chasing her actually chase another guy or will she just sit there soaking up the attention from the chasers?

I don't think you can ever be "too late" as you said. Hot girls will always have text banter going on with a few guys anyway so you're not gonna be the only person to text her that week - thats why good text messages are important.

I'm from your school of thinking though - the way I see it, if a girl is chasing you then you're gonna hurt her when she find out your not after a relationship

THAT!

last few good relationships ive had ie Boyfriend/girlfriend right from the start there has been loads of txting each other and then phone calls every day or other day.

Ive learned that when iam txting a girl that txts me back every other day or in a few days time-- it doesnt go anywhere, no chemistry builds, no comfort/ rapport which you can get rolling with momentum pretty fast txting in between the times you are seeing each other.

So reversed-- how can you build attraction/comfort/rapport with a girl you txt back 12 hours later or every other day. i just dont see it happening
yes sure you can build all that when you hook up on a date but initially thats like once a week and i dont feel its enough.

but maybe its just me that wants a good healthy relationship with the right girl ultimately out of all this?

I agree that I much prefer a girl to text me back when I text her, not 12 hours later. Its just ignorant. I text everybody back when they text me, not just girls, but everyone. But thats just me. Maybe I make myself far too "available".

But I have found that those girls that do text you once every 24 hours, even with good banter or whatever, it ain't going anywhere. Girls that are clearly interested from the start and will gladly respond to msgs and calls, often end up being quite a healthy relationship.

Ultimately though, I think if you're chasing a girl, you're just increasing her own perception of her own value, and you eventually may come across as needy.

Everyone is different, some respond immediately and some don't. But if you take too long to reply to texting some hot girl, and some other chode who just loves texting all day manages to bang her before you get a chance... I'd be kicking myself

Totally agree with this. I hate playing games, so if I'm not too busy to reply there and then, then I'll reply there and then.

I won't chase though - at the most, I will text a girl once more if she doesn't reply in a timely fashion. After that, I have lost interest. I find it deeply unnatractive when a girl starts playing these sort of games.

Much love,

Craigus

kowalski you always respond to my txts straight away and put kisses on-- just be man enough to tell everyone

i never answer my house phone -- its also usually 50% chance of me answering my mobile if somone calls but thats because i am a social retard.

ok but the shining question is-- you meet a girl you have the hots for and she txts you back 2 days later --- yes it pisses you off but does it make you MORE interested in getting her because she isnt so available?

It’s not about when you text it’s about what you say and do that separates you for the AFC chasers.

I think far too much empathise is put on how to long to wait. I will generally text her while I’m stood right in front of her, once she’s read my text and laughed she’ll generally text me back, by the time I’ve left the club I’ve already got an unbroken chain.

If you don’t want to do that, text her next day no later, if she’s a HB no matter how good you believe you’re ego is, she’ll have forgotten you in a few days. I’ve read quite a few dating books aimed at women for finding Mr. Right, most agree that if guy hasn’t texted you inside of 48 hours you don’t reply.

It has fuck all to do with when you text but has everything to do what you say and behave from then on. I’ll drive a girl to the edge of paranoia, she’ll firmly believe she is doing the chasing. For example I won’t arrange a date on first phone call, I’ll give less than 5 minutes then end the call. If this is done confidently, it will really fuck with her head, because it’s not what she’s used to.

Obviously each to there own, if you have a system that you feel works why change it, but if you’ve taken the trouble to get a girls number, text her the next day, why fuck about??? What you do after that determines who is the chaser or non-chaser.

You never hear advise saying to text the same night - but I do this too it works really well. By the next day you can text confidently knowing you're simply "replying" to the last thing she texted that night, not starting a whole new conversation

(you need to make sure SHE is the last person to send a text obviously, but thats a general rule for texting anyway, always leave her waiting for a reply....)

ok so you txt her there and then..somthing like rave on, sweet cheeks xx
she doesnt reply because:
a)shes drunk
b)doesnt hear her phone with the music

a day passes--do you send her ANOTHER txt or go hardcore and delete her number