I am going to make this story as short as I can:

There is this girl, ex-colleague, I've been going out with her a few times, everything was going great but I somehow screwed it up, the result was her telling me that "it's better we remain friends"

Now I knew that she really expected something from me but I didn't deliver. So I just applied everything I read about "exiting the friend zone": I stopped going out with her, calling her, commenting on FB etc, I just stopped all of the communication with her. Next thing I did was continuing to go out with lots of other girls, posting things about it on FB and be very active but just ignore her. After almost a week she calls me and she invites me to go with her somewhere. I said ok (without sounding happy or bored... something like 60 says about saying nothing more than it needs to be said) but after that when I called her a day before to confirm she just flaked... she said something came up blablabla... and I said ok then.. bye...

But after a few days she chats with me on the messenger and says she is sorry for last time and I ask her if she wants to go out... she says "yeah, of course!" and after I said something like "I don't know if I should invite you though... last time you said something came up and..." she sais "no, this time it's good", but when I call her next day at lunch to confirm we go in the evening she flakes again...

And now I started to ignore her again thinking that maybe it's not worth to try anymore... But she still continues to tease me by texting me... or "like" some of my posts on FB and so on... I was pretty cold with her but now I think about calling her again... I think I was really clear with her that I don't want to be her friend, I want something more, but I really don't understand why is she calling me to go out and then she flakes... Maybe some sort of punishment? (One time I got out with her and I got really drunk and one mate called me asking me to go with him because some punks were harassing his girlfriend, so I just left from that club very sudden, I just told her I have to leave, the next day I called her, I briefly apologized and told her I got into a fight that night and blablabla... she said "oh, it's really no problem but can you please be careful next time? it's really bad you didn't stay, it was really fun")

So now I just thought maybe she wants to punish me for that night and she is playing hard-to-get with me. I can feel that she just wants me to call her...

I thought maybe I can call her and be a little cold and to say something half-joking about the last time she said let's go out but changed her mind after.

I'd recommend going out sarging. This is one-itis issue, I get one-itis for like 3 different girls a week at the moment. When u go out enough you see the abundance. something fucks up you just think 'Next girl' until something hits. Attraction is fast, if it drags out like this then u get stuck between dimensions of friendship and attraction and it is an uncomfortable feeling. I prefer clean attraction from the start.

If she asks you out again, say yes, then flake on her. Probably won't have any more problems after that

-Loke

i really don't think I have oneitis for her... I was saying that after she put me into the friend zone I wanted to make sure I don't develop a oneitis so during that time I ignored her and I went out a lot... hooked up with some girls every time... I almost forgot about her... but she keeps on sending me messages and stuff like that...

and besides that I also have a LTR with a very nice girl, but since she is half a planet away from me right now, I decided to have some other "experiences" and to put into practice these PU things I was reading about

I just wanted some opinion about if I should try one more time or just forget about her... she is a HB8.5 and it seems that she likes me...

I'd probably put an end to this seemingly unhealthy relationship. Why is this long distance relationship still 'on'. Is this for back up or something?

Hm... idk... it looks like a very childish solution this one... especially since I already did it two times (one time at the club and one time before that when we were supposed to meet at a bar and I couldn't make it)

And I was also thinking that maybe if she is insisting so much with this I should just give it another try... what the hell... after all if she really is interested in me she will find some time to meet me... if not... then i will forget about her.

Abundance... she's not the only girl on the planet, it's like the chinese army out there.

The way to break oneitis is to take her off the pedastal and bend her over it, personally I'd fuck her friend then post on fb, but hey that's me.

Sounds to me that she likes the idea of going out with you more than actually hooking up. Like shes doing this to prove to herself that she could get you if she wanted. Move on and forget about her would my advice

Tell her shes welcome to turn up at your gaff anytime provided she brings her own condom, but other than that your not interested in seeing her.

Shes playing you dude, shes proberly keeping you for backup (just like we do). she proberly thinks that she could have you wenever she wants. Make her think otherwise. Some woman are really good at gaming men! Dont let them game you! I would proberly Neg the shit out of her now so she knows i dont want her in that way.