Looks do matter, the point is it's not the be all and end all. Even the most shallow people can become attracted to the most physically unattractive of people if the right emotions are created through other means.

Looks matter, don't try to pretend they don't matter at all, they play a part in what makes us attractive and there is NO arguing it, there have been more than enough studies that show looks matter. As people that seek to be as attractive as we can be to others we should not shun looks, they're part of the equation and anything we can do to improve our chances should always be looked at.

Fine by me chaps. I just don't let it get in the way any more.

you do see some complete ugly chumps with some really nice girls.

So being good looking helps get you there faster but being a slick confident mofo is also massive

being both is fucking dynamite.

My mate is like that. Ginger, a bit over weight and weird looking but hes got more confdence than anyone else I know. He'll try and pull any girl (approachs more than anyone i else know), if he has a bad game its the teams fault, if he fucks up a test its the lecturers fault. Deluded is the right word , but it works for him so kudos.

Losing weight is an important thing for me. I just feel so much more comfortable when Im slimmer (atm Im aiming to get LEAN), I can notice the difference when I see photographs of myself - when Im fat I look uncomfortable, when slimmer I look relaxed.

Im using CBT to try and get rid of negative thought patterns aswell, not just with regards to girls, but everyday life e.g. uni, gym, rugby etc. If I can push through this, I think I'll be an entirely different person at the end of it.