Does she have a lot invested in you emotionally though? Or put another way, do you know that she is definitely into you, and just that she is playing games?

Because ignoring someone who doesn't fall into any of the above categories will probably just result in them ignoring you back.

From the point of view I'm coming from, taking away the attention we give a girl will only work if she is craving it from us in the first place - for example, same GF, when we first started going out, would take ages to text or call me back sometimes, a whole day in some cases. I told this to a mate's girlfriend at the time, and she just said "oh, us girls do it all the time - we like to be chased. Ignore her for a few days; make her think that you've forgotten about her, and she'll get in touch. It's just somethin we do when we first start goin out with a guy."

So I tried it - I stopped texting her for a few days, and low-and behold, by the Friday afternoon I got a text that said something along the lines of "Miss u xxx". And later that Friday night, she had suggested we get a hotel somewhere.

... so my point to everyone:
Before you start ignoring all your number-closes, this theory of mine is only true in cases where a girl is somewhat committed to you. There needs to be a whole lot of desire on their part before ignoring them is going to stir any reactions from them.

Much love,

Craigus

This is an interesting post Craigus. Nice insights.

It's given me a couple of things to think about regarding a few girls I know at the moment. Let's see what happens when they get no contact all weekend. Hmmmm

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Don't read too much into this response or expect her to throw herself at you here. Take it as a positive.

Nova is right. What did you expect her to say? "Yayy, take me home and fuck me senseless". Of course she'll say I'll bear it mind. Remember, woman doesnt like to be labelled a slut, easy etc....! But they want sex as much as we men do. They just go about it in a very subtle way, how annoying!!

Great post buddy. I'd make the following amend to it however from my personal point of view.

I think it's Affirmation that women NEED like oxygen. As men we crave it too, Accept the key difference is we always crave Affirmation FOR SOMETHING. Our work/business achivenment/sporting achivements/success with women/ creative undertakings/sense of humour/perception etc etc....

Women on the other hand demand, crave and expect affirmation at 'hello'.

When for what ever reason they don't get that from a person they percieve to be of equal or higher social value they gear shift into 'affirmation seeking behaviour'. At which point all you have to do is stay in the control of your shit and ration out your 'affirmation' of her at a 2-1 ratio....till she's blowing you. Kidding.

Well only half kidding.

Look at all that annoying shit on Facebook where girls just constantly give each other affirmation with comments and posts like 'i love your hair/shoes/wedding ring/ new baby/Hotel room etc etc. it's reinforcement through affirmation.

You never see blokes giving each other that kinda of affirmation. We're wired differently in this regard imo.

I think the single most important thing about all this in relation to pick up is to learn to be symoltaneously generous with the attention you give but equally frugle with affirmation you provide... in other words demonstrate high value and then make sure you make her earn every single drop of affirmation she gets (once you have her conditioned to value and crave it when it's coming...FROM YOU).

Low quality guys provide low quality affirmation and throw it at the wall in abundance, men of high value live in abundance and know the value of their own affirmation/approval and so don't give it up easily/readily to just anyone...

Such men are THE PRIZE. and women are socially hard wired to want to rip each other to pieces to get the prize once the value you place in yourself has singled you out as such.

That's my 2cents.

I actually know a girl I've slept with before, and she is single at the moment, and basically throws herself at me with dirty slutty sex texts telling me what she wants me to do to her etc...
Even when she had a boyfriend before, which she cheated with me (I was young and immature..) and she was still being the same.

Maybe she is just a true slut lol. But I definitely wouldn't read too much into text messages. Alot of people are conscious that you will have that txt stored, so you could easily show somebody. If she says it in person, you can't be showing everyone (if that makes sense!)

I sincerely hope you're wrong. This supports the crap the "Law of Attraction" folks sell which has always struck me as full of nutjobs.

It'd be like finding out the mormons were right when I die. (Not that I have anything against them, it's just not for me )

so will mystery method