race and dating
 

So, I post this in the expectation of getting flamed but it's been my experience living in a white majority country:

White British girls show a strong preference for dating only white guys. This has been exacerbated by apps and on-line dating, which allow people to screen based on superficial characteristics. The exceptions I have found are a minority (maybe 10%ish?) that have a fetish/strong preference for a specific other race (arab, south Asian, black usually I notice) AND older women, 40/45 plus, who seem much less hung up on race.

It's rarely talked about because few girls will readily admit racial screening and risk being labelled racist, and it's not something provable unless a girl outright states "I don't date non-whites/browns/blacks" etc. Most girls have too much social intelligence to do that.

I think the more honest we are, the more we can progress. YMMV.

People need to get over these online dating app stats. They aren't representative of the whole sphere of dating. Incels be using it as evidence that short people, BME people etc can't get laid without ever going outside and actually talking to anyone.

But the thing I'm mainly wondering is why are you bringing this up?

Yes, we are also alive and have noticed that racism exists. However, this isn’t it. In general girls aren’t not fucking you because they are racist. Most aren’t racist.

The difference in attraction varies by race / culture. I don’t agree that most white British girls don’t fuck black guys, they do because black guys are cool (stereotypes: hip hop, basketball, big dick, etc). I don’t know one girl who doesn’t fuck black guys. Asians and Arabs is a different story and it is obvious why (stereotypes: oppression of females, smelly, weak, little dick, etc). I know plenty of girls who wouldn’t fuck one. It all makes sense. Those stereotypes are not racism they are generalisations. Just like the generalisation that the guy approaching me with face tattoos and a knife in his hand might be dangerous and I will keep my distance from him. Or the generalisation that the table I’m sitting at is brown when in truth many different shades of brown are the predominant colouring but there are also white bits and black bits and bits where the light catches it funny and they seem red... but if you all me what colour the table is I’ll say “brown”.

Dating apps are not relevant in the way you think they are. If we are in a bar a girl can see that you are a paki or whatever racial slur she is turned off by and that she doesn’t want to fuck you just the same as when looking at your photo. So a racist girl is rejecting you just the same. That’s not the problem with those apps. The problem with those apps is that physical appearance is prioritised by the app which forces the users to base their attraction choices in physical appearance, which is not what girls naturally do, nor is it what they want to do. So they don’t work for either gender. They work for gay males only, because both parties are naturally looks based and all parties understand that is the game and orient themselves appropriately. If you were face to face your other qualities, those that women actually care about, could shine through. But if the race / culture is associated with Islam, quite rightly, those aren’t getting much non-Muslim pussy.

And, the same goes in reverse. In Morocco I got very little interest from native girls and only from those who were looking for someone who could help get them a useful passport. Weird you don’t mention that, maybe you are the racist?

Anyway, we all have negative points. This forum isn’t for people to come cry about them. It’s for people to recognise them and figure out how to work with them.


Peace,

kowalski

Agreed (and I stand corrected) that anecdotally, I've seen blacks guys have more success than arabs, asians and other non-white groups. However, saying "In general girls aren’t not fucking you because they are racist. Most aren’t racist." doesn't make sense when you then say: "Asians and Arabs is a different story and it is obvious why"

Also I don't agree that the attitude "it is what it is" is a reasonable excuse for non-white people (and to a lesser extent black people also) who live in a majority white country, being excluded from the vast possibility of potential dating choices - and likewise for someone who is or MIGHT be muslim, and may well not be, to be similarly excluded. It's just as wrong in the UK or Morocco

I also explain why that’s not racism though. I was still editing. Read the whole thing...


Peace,

kowalski

Racism IS generalisation. Making assumptions based on someone's skin colour rather than content of character/actual conduct. Describing what racism is doesn't make it not racism

I also DID mention the Morocco thing, I believe it's equally bad the other way round. I just don't live in Morocco so it's not the first place I'm going to comment on

No it isn’t.
No you didn’t.

You are a bit dumb aren’t you?


Peace,

kowalski

Yes it is. Yes I did. you are thick

“ Racism is the belief that groups of humans possess different behavioral traits corresponding to physical appearance and can be divided based on the superiority of one race over another”

Educate yourself, dickhead. I’m not surprised no girl wants to fuck you.

Am I racist against the black bits of the brown table because I include them in the generalisation that the table is brown? No, retard.


Peace,

kowalski

Well, you've just stated that someone should be judged on the "content of character/actual conduct", that's not going to happen on a dating site regardless of what race is doing the choosing.

You can't force someone to feel attraction for you, they either do, or they don't, you moaning about it and playing the victim, isn't going to help your situation.