When I read the thread, an anecdote comes to mind:
I was in a bar. I spotted a group of three girls and started talking to one of them. I have no idea what I said but it didn't work out too well. A few minutes after, I was making out with one of her friends.
She asked me:
"Why did you talk to my friend first? Am I your second choice?"
I gave her a sincer answer:
"No, I simply figured I would talk to one of your less-pretty friends so they wouldnt get jealous and cockblock me further down the line."
I wrote about this on a French forum and some guys were worried I was
revealing too much of the PUA tactics. I think that's bollocks.
As it happens, my girlfriend owns two editions of
The Game, one in English and one in German.
Not only that but she studies social and cognitive psychology with a keen interest in researching attraction and arousal...
When both parties know about the game of seduction, it doesn't take the pleasure out of it nor does it make it harder to 'pick-up' someone. If anything, it makes it more sophisticated and more interesting.
To come back to the original question, I don't believe women will suddenly wake up one day and 'know our secret.'
The reason is:
there's no secret. I love talking about seduction with women, and share views.
At best, the
pua gurus did some reverse engineering in order to identify what make some guys more succesful with women so they can explain it to other men.
It would be naive to think anything new has been invented. It is simply an effort to theorize and teach it.
Nothing earth-shattering about it.
I found out
on my own most of what I later read in books and forums... For the simple reason that none of this existed when I was 18.
Most of the stuff anyway is about inner-game. It implies that you'd be able to trust your innate abilities, take chances and learn how to learn from your experiences.
That's how you become authentic, spontaneous and confident.
In short,
becoming attractive rather than trying to create attraction ex nihilo.
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we might have to start having to interact authentically with women we like.
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Amen to that