Now then guys im in need of some help involving open ended questions to get me used to speaking to woman.

I can approach but sometimes im unprepared ill say things like "You know were this is, that is" etc and then not no how to continue the conversation so it ends up me leaving, however if i could learn some more open ended questions then after say three i would initially be in a conversation.

So this is were you guys come in, if you could help me with a few open ended questions (Of an inocent nature lol for now) then i can report on the success!

Cheers fellas

xx

I've being thinking really hard about how break this down in a way to understand and as a last resort I'm turning to algebra

You have in your mind S, you want to talk about S but you’re not used to it. So you think talking about R will naturally lead to S.

You go over and say hey what do you think about R or Q?

Now they will, because you never even hinted at S. They will talk about their own experience of R or even P in an honest way.

You get dejected because you were hoping she would lead things to S and they didn’t.

If you were to go over and say "hey, I wanna talk about some S with you" Then you’re on the right path.

Try to ask less questions! Make statements and conversation will flow better! Instead of asking where she is from guess etc.

Think about what you are doing at the moment in life, so you have a couple of stories if things do dry up.

For me I am doing a race and tell them the story of how my friend's Mum challenged me to this, but she is an ex pro cross country runner so worried a 54 yr old woman is going to beat me! I usually tell them to sponsor me too. Or about this Indian Greek wedding I went to recently and all the absurdities attached to this.

How you tell them is more important than content! I think there is a good post on here about things you need to demonstrate in stories.

If you have no stories - start living life a bit more!

Don't be scared of silence. It can be used to build up sexual tension!

Yes and talk about S! Don't hide from your instincts!

Walk up to HB10 and say..

"Hey have you ever been on the M25? it's a really good road. I was driving on it yesterday and then I took the M1 up North. The M1 wasn't so good as it had road works on it.."

Then go for the F-close.. good luck!

Its great that you are approaching. Thats half the battle won already!!! What are you looking for when you are going out? If you know it also makes it easier.

I totally agree with snake eyes. Talk about what you are doing at the moment. There is a lot more to us than we give ourselves credit for. And definitely use pauses for impact and build tension.

By asking questions (open or closed) you are seeking her approval, especially if you have just met her and this could be seen as a DLV. By making statements/telling stories about things that happen in your life it is a DHV. I wouldn't go in bragging... about how you were the only one out of your group of friends who won the drinking competition last friday. Take her on an emotional ride.

After I've opened I might proceed with "You look like you have a good taste in music. My nephew and I are learning to play guitar and are challenging each other to learn cool acoustic songs. What do you think would be the coolest song I could challenge him to play?" They respond with something that is generally a rubbish love song. I'll respond "Ah thats a good one I'll have to check it out." I'll proceed tell them about this tricky song he is getting me to learn, how at 1st it was difficult but by practicing it gets easier. And now that I'm learning it its like I heard again for the 1st time and really got the message of the song which is... Then after a while if things are going well I'll pop in something like "When I've got it down I'll have to play it for you sometime" (this is a great future pace, gets the idea in her head that we could see each other again) "Although I am nervous about singing in front of people, will you go easy on me? I was at ... where they had karaoke and I was shaking so much the mic almost fell out my hands (laugh) and I thought to myself how would Bono sing this and ... (This either leads on to) a: seeing U2 in concert... held up our phones like lighters (good excuse to get phone out then ask for number) b: the good feeling of having done something you were scared of doing

What ever you decide to talk about make it personal. Something you can easily talk about.



- If you would still like to use open ended questions I would suggest it be about something like, I like travelling so I would ask, "You look like the adventurous type, If money was no object, and you could go anywhere in the world where would you go? and Why? (this way you are finding a bit more about her in an area you are actually interested in. If she doesn't like travelling then I'd ask why not. DHV(get her to qualify herself to you) Generally if she doesn't like travelling then I wouldn't want to get to know her anyway.

- "I'm starving, I could demolish a good pizza/curry. What's the best pizza you've ever had? What did it taste like?" Almost everyone can talk about the food they love. You could then talk about your favourite pizza/curry place and what it smells like as you walk through the door and how friendly the staff are and how the flavours are amazing

Take her on a journey. Enjoy the ride.