I had a day2 arranged with an HB8. I waited for 20 mins and she did not show so I thought I had been flaked.

I get home and there is an email form her sent at 7.45 asking where was I. She said that she waited 15mins and looked around. That's what I did but did not see her.

It is possible that we just missed each other or she flaked me. If the latter then why the email?

How should I respond to the em.

I did phone her and txt her but I am not sure I had the right number, could be her work mobile...

Advice on how to reply to em please, asap....

I was thinking of apologising that we must have missed each other and then go on the DHV by saying that I went to another event where there were loads of other HBs. shows here that I have options.

What are the thoughts of my peers on this one?

many thanks

OK K, thanks for that.

Here is my response:

Hi HB8

It seems that we must have missed each other whilst we both checked out the different exits!!!! I texted and phoned you on ***********, your work mobile and assumed that you must be stuck in a meeting. These things happen.

Anyhow, what are your plans for the long weekend? We should have some great weather so I will use the opportunity to go and see my parents.

Lets meet up next week, I can do Wednesday or thursday around 6pm

Have a great weekend.

............


How does that sound guys?

OK, I have just check my email. She says that she is sorry but she did not hear her mobile and did not get the voicemail until the evening.

So I do not think I was flaked. She wants to set another date and this time agree a more specific place to avoid confusion.

is my above response still ok?

Think the response is ok but you need to put the higher value in to effect don't tell her when your around say some thing like

"you have to let me know when your free because I got a bit on this week but I am around be nice to see you soon as "

It says that you’re a busy man but yet you will make time for her so gives you the value but gives her the wanted feel

set a met up but do it for if you need to go in to town for a bit or do sum thing sum wear set it so you can met her after then your already there and don't go just for her

Then you’re not getting played your just meting her in passing!!!

"you have to let me know when your free because I got a bit on this week but I am around be nice to see you soon as "

Excellent reply so I will use that.

thanks for the advice Limit, i better go off and send the em.

it is true though I do have several hbs on the go at the same time and they are all kpt in the dark about each other. none of them know each other, at least not to my knowledge.

BTW, thanks for the encouraging words although these are not required, I do not suffer much AA and accept that life is such that sometimes flakes happen. It is life as they say.

will keep you all posted.

Hay thats ok avon let us know how you get on with it mate and good luck

OK guys here's the latest report.

Met up for D2 with the HB8 yesterday and it seems that we did miss each other last time round.

We went for a short walk and I did the cube on her which continued at coffee and then we had another walk towards her tube station.

I walked her most of the way to her station and then said "OK I will have to leave you here because I have to go this way." I did not want to send the signal that I was walking her all the way to the station just to be with her. Made it look as though this is on the way that I have to go any way.

The situation is that she is here for 2-3 months and has a BF back home. The BF was only mentioned once yesterday.


Ok, request for advice on what to do next please.

I have managed to come across as the friendly sociable guy, built a some comfort and mildly neged a few times so the next step is take the interaction to a sexual level.

She did ask what I was doing at the weekend to which I responded that I was playing tennis. It sounded as though she was asking to meet up at the wkend but I actually can not at the moment so I need to draw this one out and keep her interested and warm until the logistics are right for me.

I did suggest that we maybe we should go out one weekend perhaps to a bar or a club or something. She did not seem too keen on that. I need to spend some time with her when we can spend more or less a whole evening together with the aim of an f-close.

Any suggestions? BTW, I cannot bring her back to my place for various reasons.

cheers

This girl has more sense to turn you down if you ask her to go to a club with you. Bar for a drink maybe, but noisy loud club for a date is a big no no for me. Have a think, do something different, be different. She's here for 2-3 months, so she hardly knows the area well, show her around - art galleries, exhibitions, etc. However, whilst chatting to her, drop a few Statement of Intent (SOI) e.g. you look hot/sexy today, you so fit, & do loads of kino. If u busy, just set a date & time in the future & remind her nearer the time. Sometimes playing too cool & not disinterested can back fire...! Good luck dood.

Much Success!

My opinion: If she has a BF back home I would leave it. I'd ask her more about this, to decide whether I want to persue it or not. I'm not in the business of screwing people over, even if i'm not likely to meet them.

That said, it could be a shit test, or it could be an ex-BF she still feels attached to.

Guess it's a grey area, isn't it? I always thought I would never have sex with a married woman but when the temptation was presented, my natural male testerone took over. I felt quilty throughout and for days after, didnt enjoy the sex and glad that I didnt see the girl again. Now I vow not to sleep with a married woman but who knows...."the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak"

But for me BFs is a different proposition and i wouldnt think twice!