Can you turn around a bad impression? -
28-09-2017, 05:24 AM
Hello guys
I am going to try and get this username changed as I didn't mean it to come across like I'm in the BNP lol it looks a bit too nationalistic sorry about that.
Turning to matters at hand.
So I got this job, but here's the thing. I got this office job and really wasn't something suited to my personality. Indeed I ended up looking like a fool who just types away and is random. I'm creative and most people there just didn't get me.
But this girl there, one of the managers. Well, guys, I want her. In a nice way. She's wonderful, I'm in love what can I say.
But her impression of me at the moment is of low status. I know that because that was everyone's impression of me at that job.
Now if she was to meet me in a bar or somewhere in which I am comfortable things might have been different.
I will work on being better in the office.
But now that that impression is cast with her is there any hope to turn it around? She's incredible.
I am going to try and get this username changed as I didn't mean it to come across like I'm in the BNP lol it looks a bit too nationalistic sorry about that.
Most people who identify as "British" are either foreign born or their children. Rather ironic that!
Anywho... ”her impression of me at the moment is..."
Stop right there.
This is a dead end.
What another thinks of you is your 'being for others', in this case a specific other; this girl. Your being for others is outside of your limits. You can never know it or otherwise divine it. Let it go.
You really don't know what she thinks of you and there is, until better tech is invented, no way you can. When you find yourself imagining what you are to another try notice it and decide what you want to do about it. It might serve you to let it go. It might serve you to wait and see what this other, what any other, does to you by their actions.