Hi

I have I think a major problem with my girlfriend. We have recently started to have sex. In fact she lost her virginity to me. The following times were OK, but each time we have sex, she stops it before she gets an orgasm. I could go for a quite some time and usually I don't cum the first time we have it because I don't have a chance as she stops it. When I asked her about it she says she is not in pain or uncomfortable but she just feels the need to stop (Weird). Recently she started purposely trying to last longer just for me to cum but I hate that. I want her to feel pleasure and have an orgasm just as I do. From my point of view she seems to enjoy it (she moans and says my name all the time). Also she doesn't like to do it many times as she says that each time we have it, after the sex her belly is turning and she is feeling sick. Each time I ask her I get the same answer: "I don't know why I do it, I just can't last long". How would you call it lasting if she isn't even close to orgasm? I am quite new to this and I do care about her and so I am asking here. I just need help to understand what is wrong.

Cheers

Badum

She is new to the feeling too. Might be weird for her. It's all about the chemistry that it causes into her body. Some people embrace it, some people can't.

I know girls aswell that told me it feels like they want to pee, maybe she is scared of shitting or peeing in front of you as she let herself go? Fuck knows.

Could it be that Im hitting her cervix? Our previous times were rather rough...

Depends, Maybe. It can be air in her vagina too.

I would be you, I would take it as a game with her.

First, set a really good atmosphere, something romantic, that will make her feel comfortable.

Second, speak with her. In sex, communication is the most important. What you need to do is tell her "let's try all the different positions we can find and you let me know which one you prefer and which one make you feel the best".

Make her feel comfortable, if a position is weird laugh about it together, show her that you won't judge her and accept her.

It's exactly like a girl that quiff (fart from vagina), if you laugh about it (not a crazy way of course) and aknowledge it as a part of it, she will feel way better.

word. I led 2 girls to squirt in the last 2 month when they didn't know they could. It's all about the approach and the right skills.

I am 20 she is 18. I am her first boyfriend really. I have been with one girl before, it was an ONS. She never masturbated, at least thats what shes telling me and therefore never experienced orgasm. I am playing with her clit and licking her out regularly but she always says that she enjoys sex with me more than licking out. She is totally unexperienced. I had to build everything from ground up with her. I am the only person besides her that has ever touched her fanny. In terms of sex positions she is really scared of trying new ones. It took me couple of times to convince her to do doggy style and still she prefers me on top (Missionary). She doesn't like her being on top. She says that she likes when I'm in control. We agreed upon a safe word because as it turns out, when she tells me to stop she doesnt really mean it and wants me to continue. She likes being dominated yet sensitive at the same time. I dont really understand it.

Lol since I started to pick up I had some rules but the main one is:

Thanks so much kowalski, it cleared so many things for me. Just one more thing: Do you think that her passiveness in sex (in terms of not initiating it and generally not "being up for it") is caused by her lacking orgasms?

Any chance you wanna fuck me K?

Well she is a bit shy in general. In terms of talking about sex or expressing her emotions she prefers to do it on the phone rather than face to face. She is not socially awkward but i had to put a lot of work in order to make her more confident about herself already. She keeps reminding me of that. Does her being on the implant could cause this? Another thing is that she is not very into all those things you should do in relationships. What i mean by that is that she would rather come to mine, watch some films and cuddle rather than idk go out for movies. I.e. on 13th she goes to a house party with her old friends from highschool knowing that she will be hungover on valentines. She said that its just a day like any other and shes not bothered if we meet. I dont really know how should i approach that.