My first cougar.... Hard to get her to actually chat! -
17-10-2015, 12:42 PM
Ok guys always had a thing for older woman though have also been quite shy when out to talk to them or interact like what do I say......
Anyway i joined Pof and messaged this one woman 37 who doesn't want anything serious basically telling her shes gorgeous and she returned the message with her number telling me to WhatsApp her.
Ok so the conversation has been hard as I said I dont know what to say in person and suppose IM'ing isn't any different lol but I seem to be asking all the questions with little response back dont get me wrong we have talked about sex positions how she likes to sleep naked at night and even exchanged some pictures {my god what a set of tits!) though she doesn't really interact in the conversation.
It seems like I am overthinking it maybe but she is definitely in control haha need help on flipping this around! We have agreed to meet next Saturday but dont want her to loose interest before that...
Yeah suppose lol hate condoms but guess I'd hate chlamydia or hiv more haha
Though any tips on cougar game?
Probably not a huge difference between "normal game" - just treat is in a normal way as Stein said to someone else elsewhere on the forum.
If your away to meet her and its obvious she's just looking for a shag, just go for it and make your intentions known, unless your looking for a relationship with an older women which it sounds like your not.
They go fucking nuts for boiled sweets and murray mints...
In all honesty trying to pick up an older woman is exactly the same as picking up younger women, in fact Stein posted something similar about different women/situations in another thread:
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Originally Posted by Stein
This is a standard game fallacy. There are two ways people look at game: Top down from principles and bottom up from arbitrary contexts. The first one works, the second one doesn't.
The thing is that there are so many possible social situations that it's pretty much impossible to have a game plan for any given one: Day game, night game, coffee shop game, book shop game, oil rig game, biro factory game..You can't have some standalone method for all of it. On the other hand if you're operating off a few simple ideas you've internalised you can automatically adapt to any situation the same way you would just by being normal in your day to day.
The thing is with the above in mind it's a bit hard to give specific advice. As a general rule I'd say chat to her for longer since it sounds like you didn't much, and generally approach it like it's not a big deal because it isn't. Otherwise you risk this:
Ultimately though, you've got to handle it in whatever way seems right to you personally. The best way to succeed is by being congruent and the fastest way to learn is by fucking up. Almost definitely not the adivce you were looking for, but it's probably the best you'll get.
If you want to improve your chances of finding a receptive older woman, go to places where you're more likely to find them i.e. bars & clubs with mixed ages
My first cougar.... Hard to get her to actually chat! -
17-10-2015, 12:42 PM
