So I met this cute Colombian waitress the other day in this Ecuadorian cafe I thought I'd try for lunch, she stood maybe a little too close to me when I was deciding what to order from the menu, and I made fun of an irate window cleaner that came in pissed off because he hadn't been paid, which she seemed receptive to.

I plan to go in for lunch sometime this week, and I want to leave with her number, as well as my food...

Why do you feel you need to "change your game" for specific women?

Just ask for her number next time you go on for food then.

It was more changing my game for specific situations.

This is a standard game fallacy. There are two ways people look at game: Top down from principles and bottom up from arbitrary contexts. The first one works, the second one doesn't.


The thing is that there are so many possible social situations that it's pretty much impossible to have a game plan for any given one: Day game, night game, coffee shop game, book shop game, oil rig game, biro factory game..You can't have some standalone method for all of it. On the other hand if you're operating off a few simple ideas you've internalised you can automatically adapt to any situation the same way you would just by being normal in your day to day.

The thing is with the above in mind it's a bit hard to give specific advice. As a general rule I'd say chat to her for longer since it sounds like you didn't much, and generally approach it like it's not a big deal because it isn't. Otherwise you risk this:



Ultimately though, you've got to handle it in whatever way seems right to you personally. The best way to succeed is by being congruent and the fastest way to learn is by fucking up. Almost definitely not the adivce you were looking for, but it's probably the best you'll get.

Sorry you've lost me?!