Thank you all for your answers, helped me a lot :-)! I understand it's a very emotional topic and it might hurt a lot if you know how it feels being cheated on, but let's face the pain you feel when your girlfriend betrays you: it's simply abused trust not the sexual interaction itself...And a stable person should be principally able to subordinate temptation to personal values. So you could see the guy as a person who has revealed a lack of integrity which is not acceptable in any way (ok, I know few will think this way actually but it's a theoretical point of view
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Even though it doesn't change things you'd surely want to kick the fuck out of him if you ever saw him?
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I say: It depends....he surely wouldn't become my friend but if I really don't know him, I would mainly blame the girl and be happy of becoming aware of her serious character flaws. In the end, temptation is everywhere (eating the pizza without your flatmate, selling acid to your grandma, adding a moustache to the Mona Lisa in Paris...) but the decision is up to you.
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So the girl might be totally fine with the situation, but by getting involved you're becoming complicit in something that can potentially cause a lot of emotional harm to someone you don't know from adam who never did a thing wrong to you. If she wants to cheat on her boyfriend fine, but she'll have to find some other asshole to do it with, not me.
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Nevertheless, I think Stein makes a good point here: Sure, a relationship where the girl is cheating has to have problems in some way but if you seduce her (aware of the fact that she has a boyfriend), it's you being the catalyst for pain and anger. I personally think the purpose of pickup should be enriching the world with positivity. it's not only more ethical but it helps you to establish a proper inner game. (ok these sentences were really gay - but they're true)
Last I want to thank Markuk for his thoughtful answer :-) ... It's probably always most right to evaluate the specific situation. Unfortunately, I still have to get a good sense of intuition but experience will do its job.
Oh god...after this long and serious post I'm feeling like a hippie in the 60's...
You're awesome guys! And sorry for my bad english ;o)