ive browsed blogs, forums, watched videos, skimmed/read books

but i know it comes down to one thing. Approach.

i procrastinate a lot in life, it is one of my faults. i know to improve my day game/night game i just need to go out and approach girls.

i always see at least 5 approachable girls every day I'm out (up sides of working in central london) but i can be walking look at them and a million questions/doubts start pouring in to my head:

"okay what do i say?"
"say hi? then what"
"what do i talk a bout"
"should i stop her in the middle of the street"
"there is too many people around"
"i wanna talk to her but she's on the phone"
"she's with people"

the list can go on and on.
i know this is just approach anxiety. i am not scared of woman or even talking to them, i just don't know how to handle these type situations.

any tips that can help me with this, so i can just get things started?

You answered your own question at the beginning of your post

So, begin.

The only thing I would add, as something I do when approaching chicks in the street is, be honest with her and go up and tell her what you think of her.

If you want I'll take you out when I'm back in London. Only for a day though, have loads of assignments at the mo. Give me a pm with you're number.

Its never one thing. There's tonnes of factors in all this. You can get laid outside of 'approaching' so there's definitely other things involved. Might sound pedantic but its best to get outside of the frame of one particular area, reason or action being the answer, otherwise you'll only be let down.

you may well have tried this already, and I know it may sound lame - asking an attractive girl for directions, make sure its on your route, excuse me, smile, eye contact, I'm looking for (destination of your choice) thank her genuinely and be on your way

Try this for a week or two

It purely gets you into the mindset of stopping women on the street that you like the look of. Its also low risk / low investment - MOST girls are socially adjusted and will help you if they know, even those with earphones in (sod's law the first one will be a foreign tourist ). Avoid any temptation to turn it into an approach at all costs - as this will place you in the manipulative/deceitful/lame category.



"say hi? then what" if you say hi, she will say hi back and just walk on - just like a girl would ignore a hi in a dating message, there is no hook, people say hi all the time, its just noise... whatever words emerge from your mouth they must be delivered in calmly, slowly, with good positive vibes and accompanied with friendly eye contact. Tell exactly why you noticed her


"what do i talk a bout" anything interesting/non-freaky, tell her about your plans for the day, find out hers - avoid / steer conversation away from work, women find talking about their jobs dull as hell - even if you find the idea of them being a stripper fascinating

If you get past this stage and feel you've been talking for more than a few minutes, it's a safe bet she's interested in finding out more, so invite her to go for coffee there and then, or if not feasible for you or her - the number close. Email/Facebook are a waste of time.

"should i stop her in the middle of the street" yes - much better than at the end of a dark alley
"there is too many people around" exactly, so who will notice? and if she is that insecure about a bunch of people seeing you chat to her on a busy street do you want to date her anyway?
"i wanna talk to her but she's on the phone" yeah, probably best leave these alone - she is already engrossed elsewhere, you will definitely be seen as an annoyance
"she's with people" stick to single girls at first, or maybe twos if they are giving you the vibe - talk to both initially, then focus on your target

if you approach you will immediately stand out from the rest of the dorks who stand/stare/wolf whistle/shout "hey gorgeous"/follow her/walk close without speaking

avoid groups of girls with guys in them - even if they are just their friends
avoid girls who are talking to themselves - no matter how hot they are
avoid girls who are speed-walking while shouting "my boss is an asshole!"

when approaching, keep outside their intimate zone - an arms length

the easiest ones are the one's who give you the eye glance / smile / hair flick or combination of all the above as you walk nearby

If you see it being done in real life, instead of a video it will have a big impact on your subconscious mind. You'll believe it's doable and it will inspire you.

i think I'm gong try this while I'm on my break at work, just to start out.

yeah, go for it bro - try the low risk directions approach first... one or two per day

and then ramp it up to direct after a few weeks, once you go direct your reality shifts into new possibilities - the feeling you get is literally like the scene from the Matrix when Neo see's everything through a new perspective. Then the girls will start checking you out with sideways glances / smirks as you pass each other and that's an invitation in my book

just a warning - direct is only generally appropriate in fast moving situations with lots of people around/crowds/music festivals... where if you don't approach, you will never see again (bad for work/social situations/trains)

Another tip is to say yor opener in one breath. If you pause after 'excuse me' they'll probably just walk on thinking your selling something.

I'd have to disagree with you there Serendipity. You do not speak to them to stop them, you go up to them correctly to stop them.

Jay, for now just go up to them, doesn't matter what you're saying or what you're doing. You seem clued in enough to not be an absolute imbicil, just go ahead and do it.