So Why are you really here?

[Refl3x]

You guys ever really pondered why you are on this forum?
what drives you, what are you looking for, like....really?

so based on the premise on this forum
guys come here because they want to be awesome with girls

so you think being good with girls will fill the hole you have in your mind and then everything will be rosy and you can move onto the next thing or your life will be great?

Nope

i can only relate my own experience but i think it likely fits most- but feel free to say no, yay, fuck you, whatever

i came here: couple of years ago

i was lonely
felt like i had low worth
wished i could go chat to girls-- figured it would be awesome and i would be
THE WIN if i could
ok so
having a few brain cells (mentally unstable?)
i thought heck i meet cool dudes, make friends and become an awesome dude
bag some hot girls get immense confidence and then life will be easy afterwards

Nope

so i learned stuff on here- it was part of 'my journey'
i thought about stuff
i played the numbers game
i learned (at a geometric rate - i became self aware at 10:15 eastern time) T2..

no word of a lie
i cheated, i lied, i fucked over 500 birds
somtimes 4/5 NEW birds every week
feck knows the money i sank into dates
i learned
each time i learned
going on dates, getting nothing
going on dates, getting somthing
going on dates, getting fucked over on txts
yadda yadda
until
going on dates
NOt giving a fuck ANYMORE
ahaha this was like a mega powerup
the power of not giving a fuck
having no intention
not caring wether the date went anywhere or didnt
inviting then round for dinner
cooking- wine, dancing at home, not being afraid, having no plan not giving a shit of they like you or dont
i got to the stage of maybe a 98% rate of bedding them
i got to a stage of 100% not caring

i went away a year
couple of long term relationships
i got married
shit got serious

so, here i am
drunk and on coke yes
so im married to a foreign bird
very very attractive, great in bed
(pain in the arse)

so who am i?
the same person i was when i started
so why did i really come here andwhat i mean is what is really my motivation?
there is a saying
no matter where you go....there YOU are.
i went somwhere- i am in that place and im still the same person.

So why you really here?
you think this goal will fix shit?

but hey
lifes short, it gives us somthing todo?...

[Serendipity]

I thought about this recently. Since I was really young I wanted to learn to play a musical instrument and play in a band. I learned the guitar. It took 5 years to get good.

I was more interested in music than I was in girls. I gigged in amateur bands. It kept me going. I wanted to write music but realised I had no talent for it.

I can still play but don't feel the need to do it too often. I've no regrets about all the time and money I sank into that. But it didn't get me a woman. Pursuing jobs and money and moving around didn't get me a woman either.

You do come to the conclusion the change has to be from within. The ego puts up it's elaborate defences to making that change.

I always wanted to learn to be good with women. And now I'm as interested in that as I used to be in music. Life was slipping past. I felt as if I'd failed as a man somehow.

Learning this shit is keeping me going. It's something challenging to do. I would feel worse not doing anything about it.

You only get one life so use it how you want to use it. Then you can have no regrets. Half the battle is knowing how you want to use it.

Dickens summed it up: No space of regret can make amends for one life misused.