After reading this thread I logged into my profile, changed some stuff and sent some messages out, just random messages. Short sentences, value giving and if I asked the girl a question I wasn't putting '?' at the end, instead I'd put 'choose'. I felt it makes it less formal and shows a good control.
I messaged 4 people early this morning, 2 have replied so far, both answering my question and following up with a question of their own. If you are just pissing around on the site, send messages out here and there, I can't see the importance of creating a solid profile; the fact that it's not solid shows you aren't always on the site and shows authenticity. Look at many profiles girls write, they're shit 85% of the time. However, if you're on the sites 24/7, looking to get a girlfriend or whatever then the importance of a good profile is obvious. I would, however, recommend to everyone using online, that you put your "looking for" as 'friends' or 'hangout'. Attitude. It's, I feel the most important, expecially in messages. Don't loose your authenticity by trying to be someone you're not and at the same time, don't be a little pansey. Show some manliness, have a dominant nature to your message. Turn the topic to a physical/sexual nature within a comfortable and realistic target by using Ryan's simple easy texting which can be found here - Texting In conclusion, going out more than sitting your ass down on the PC. It's not only healthier for you but also more beneficial in order to become socially fucking awesome. |
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I really dislike the fact that people think just because it's online that it's a cop-out. I think it can be. If you have terrible AA and quite poor social skills you can hide behind a computer and fake it unlike when walking up to a girl in the street or in a pub. But if you have all of your shit together offline then you can kill online... |
[quote=daleinthedark;86808 I think that to be successful in the real world(day/night) or online you have to exude self-confidence and a perceived social value[/QUOTE]
This is something I am realising is so key. People often say "I just can't think what to say" /text or whatever. All this comes down to confidence. I'm still not sure what value is exactly. Isn't confidence a big part of it? |
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For guys that have their shit sorted, it's a good way to interact but shouldn't be your primary source. Fair feedback though, if your way works for you then cool, my way, when I do use it, works for me and the area that improved it for me was the attitude (my photo's are shit). |
Doesn't it just show that what you say or looks isn't so important, but that it's more of a numbers game and being able to keep going and weather the storms?
Though I suppose if his opener was "hi?" he might have been overlooked a lot more. He was seeking some kind of reaction, good or bad. |
Got very lucky on POF, I seemed to end up being approached by a cute little Polish lass from Newcastle. She was far hotter in the flesh, traveled all round the world seemed to like stuff I liked so conversation seemed to just last forever without it being difficult. It was the first date I'd ever actually been.. Whats the crack with second dates? She said she wanted to meet again.. I just dont want to come over all keen even though she is smoking hot, but is suggesting Saturday in her home town to early, or? I'm such a novice lol.. especially sober haha
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We can’t tell if it’s too soon as we have no clue when you had the first date. I would usually leave a week or so else it’s all a bit too much at once, but hey you say she’s keen so why not? Get some more numbers to work on then you can build up some options. |
I personally have found online dating to be totally rubbish. And I know why that is. It is because men outnumber women on most dating sites between 2 to 1 and 4 to 1. So the women on them get tons of messages and therefore most guys find it very hard to get any dates at all from them. I have only ever had about five dates from dating sites in the ten odd years that I used them. I think in all the years I used dating sites i must have sent out around 40,000 messages to women and got nothing in the end for all my trouble.
That is why I think that real world dating i.e. day game and night game is far better as you have far more chance of success. |
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It's the same as chatting up a girl in the street or in a club; you have to be confident and witty and there has to be attraction I personally had my shit together offline and online and when I used PoF I managed to get 5 dates in a weekend. |
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