When the woman plays you

[silvertongue]

I'm a slightly above average looking guy, 40, divorced. Never been that bad a picking up women, but read the game, got in shape and had a moment of clarity where I realised how easy it is.

As a result, I am now dating 6 woman. 2 of whom are 10s. one of them is the most incredibly sexy woman I have ever seen. I walk into a bar with her and every man from 18 to 80 stares at her. We both said we didn't do relationships and this was fine, but then I made the mistake of falling for her, big time. Her previous partners have been all millionaires or famous men, which makes me feel a little emasculated. We both still see other people, but I think I can't handle the situation and have asked her, but she us not ready to be mutually exclusive.

The other girl that is also a 10 is much sweeter and more likely girlfriend material, but I knew that will be a slower game and she would not be open to be seeing other people. in the meantime I feel like a bad person for the other 4 that I am just having fun with.

Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.

[Serendipity]

Some of these 10's can be real bitches.

[Stein]

Originally Posted by silvertongue

I'm a slightly above average looking guy, 40, divorced. Never been that bad a picking up women, but read the game, got in shape and had a moment of clarity where I realised how easy it is.

As a result, I am now dating 6 woman. 2 of whom are 10s. one of them is the most incredibly sexy woman I have ever seen. I walk into a bar with her and every man from 18 to 80 stares at her. We both said we didn't do relationships and this was fine, but then I made the mistake of falling for her, big time. Her previous partners have been all millionaires or famous men, which makes me feel a little emasculated. We both still see other people, but I think I can't handle the situation and have asked her, but she us not ready to be mutually exclusive.

The other girl that is also a 10 is much sweeter and more likely girlfriend material, but I knew that will be a slower game and she would not be open to be seeing other people. in the meantime I feel like a bad person for the other 4 that I am just having fun with.

Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.

There's no reason to feel emasculated because she's dated rich or famous people. I knew a girl in uni who had a brief thing with Jason Derulo, but she's now been in a long term relationship with another guy from uni who's completely unremarkable. Fun guy, good guy, but ordinary. Earlier this year I was briefly seeing a girl who almost married a millionaire, and it wasn't any different from anyone else. She's already seeing you, and that means she likes you as you are right now. That's all that's necessary. People like who they like, even if they can't point to one specific factor why. Just get comfortable with it and don't worry about it. After all you're fucking a 10 as well as 5 other girls. That's a pretty comfortable situation in my opinion. If you're secure and chill about it then it might progress along into something exclusive. If you're insecure and try and rush it then it probably won't.

As for the other girl this guilt it's probably all in your head. Are you lying to her? Have you told her what you want out of it? 6 girls is a LOT to be seeing at once (I've never been able to hack more than 4 or 5 without it completely doing my head in within a couple of weeks), so I'm guessing that the time restriction of seeing all the other girls means you're probably more often just chilling out and having sex than having 'boyfriend girlfriend' time. So have you asked her what she wants? Often the idea of a 'nice girl' is just in guys heads. Hell even nice girls just want someone to fuck sometimes. She might actually be more comfortable with the situation if you're open about it, hell it might even be implicitly understood already anyway.

[silvertongue]

Thanks for the response Stien. I have told her I have fallen for her, but I'm also open about some of the other girls. she has an ex boyfriend who us also a business partner and he stays over as he lives in a different city. When I know she is seeing him I usually call another girl so I can deal with it.

The problem is, is it doesn't work as a casual fb if you fall for the girl. I tell girls that I don't do relationships, but I'm happy for them to come round and have food, drink wine and stay the night. The never usually come around unannounced, although my number 1 did on Thursday, but luckily I was alone. Lol

[themaxx]

You are sleeping around with multiple women - which is fine. You're sleeping with a girl who doesn't do relationships - ie she is sleeping around with multiple guys - which is fine, but what kind of girl is this? A girl who wants to sleep with lots of guys is not looking for a relationship. You're trying to change this girl and it's simply impossible. Accept her for who she is and what she wants.

If you want a girl who is relationship material, you need to re-think the types of girls that you date, and you also need to re-think your own behaviour.

[silvertongue]

@themaxx

Yup, I think the problem is I know I can't change her but hoped I could. I'm not using women, I just love their company and find something beautiful in nearly all of them.

You can never own another human being.

I'm away on business the next couple of days so hopefully, I'll get my head together. Lol