Neediness is a type of pain. Pain manifests in many ways and can make several branches of pain i.e. fear/neediness/anger/etc... I think a good way to look at it is to perceive the pain as a tree like structure.

Many people want a quick fix approach; similar to sawing off a branch. But that doesn't stop it from growing again, it might take only minutes or it might take years. All it needs is food; a trigger.


However tackling the problem at the point where it gets its food supply, the roots i.e. your core problems, will help you to overcome the pain. Not exactly a 2 minute job and many people come on here, realize their problem isn't a quick fix and then leave.


I'm in the process of doing the latter option and although it's taking time, it's much better in the long run. And, I've also found that it's helping me improve in other areas.


Dude, this is way too much of an investment. A status could be about anything, so whats the point in reading them? It can quite easily lead you on the wrong path.


I was on a plane not so long ago and there were 2 attractive girls a few rows in front of me. I heard them talking about the type of guys they like "big muscles a must, funny, etc..". Then a really thin guy with arms that looked like they wouldn't even be able to lift a pencil approached the girls. He sat there for over an hour and was deep in conversation with the girls totally attracted to him. Exchanged phone numbers and agreed to meet.

My point is, it doesn't really matter what a girl states about anybody or anything on FB or to her friends, it can all change very quickly.

Exactly.

I think what girls think and say they find attractive in a guy often goes out the window as soon as they meet a guy in real life. Because then they get his whole presence, not just certain aspects.

On the neediness thing I totally agree with the previous posters that it's not a quick fix. Even if you manage to hide it at the start, it'll make a showing later on in a relationship and cause problems.

You need to think what is best for you in the long run.

Sacrificing 0.0001% (obv just a gestimate) of girls to better your life or scarificing life improvement for these girls and then more than likely end up fucking it up with your pain.