Partly both. Don't find hear that attractive and, yes, fear of embarassment and also fear of hurting her feelings and other fears i suppose.

She's a grown woman. She's spent a lot of time living in the real world and she can look after her herself. Stop getting scared on account of her feelings and show her the respect of actually doing what you want to do. If you just want to fuck her, fine. You have just as much of a right to feel good about the whole situation as she does.

Either that or just write her a really, really, really long email.

1 - Work out yourself what you want (fuck her/leave her/etc..)

2 - Re-fucking-lax

3 - Don't continue to be an unsociable idiot, talk to people. You said you read PUA books so pluck up some courage and for gods sake don't think it's somewhat awkward to go to the toilet if passing her desk.

4 - Talk to her. Ask her out for a drink after work. Spend some time together, if not for you to initiate something else then at least go out as work colleagues.

5 - Work out between each other exactly what you want to happen i.e. friends. ** Would be best done after a fuck but since your being damn stupid not wanting to fuck her then..yeah**

6 - Realising that not fucking her was stupid.


Become social and talk instead of email, you walk past her desk to use the can so TALK.


"Hey just a quickie, we've got our break in a few minutes and I'm going to be partially naked in there" - If I had an office job, I'd always have the urge to say that to someone.

Seen / been in similar situations at work. It always sends the rumour mill into overdrive and makes for an uncomfortable time at work for both people.

Best to keep your dignity and don't get involved. Talk to her but treat her only as a co-worker / friend nothing more.

If one of you leaves the job in the near future, then meet up and fuck her if you want to.

Go out and address these issues you have with socialising / women. It's sounds as if that's the core problem, not this other woman or your colleagues. If you develop yourself more you'll look back and wonder why you ever worried about this situation.

Good luck

which further suggests a problem that the only people who read it is face and dan...

which means ur getting bad advice all around.

if u want sound advice.... keep it shot.

So short you dont even put all the letters in PHILLIP!

Im gonna pretend i meant it.

Agreed, avoid shagging girls from a) your immediate social circle b) your place of work. Both should be respites from women and their associated hassles.

Yeah, but... she's 'decent' looking.