I feel that way too some days, where it just seems impossible.

The other day I left my building & turned to go down the busy city street I live on, & I seen this hottie coming my way with a few shopping bags. For a second I considered approaching her, then instead I decided to take some mental notes, & as I watched her go by I asked myself

"what the fuck would be stopping you from doing something so easy as going up to a woman & telling her she's pretty?"

"what is the worst that can happen?"

"why aren't you yet able to just go for it no problem?"

I didn't approach her but it didn't matter, I'd had a serious realization that I'm going to die someday & refuse to die a pussy.

Action, no matter how small, will make you feel better & more positive about it. In fact after you approach the first few of the day you feel fucking awesome & on a high.


I saw this analogy yesterday...

imagine you're in the movie Saw and the doll with the Jigsaw voice tells you you have 60 seconds or else you lose a chunk of your body, would you do the required approaches and not eject too early? While the doll is egging you on: Just do it... Do it.. do it. What are you going to do?

So true. You can go from one suggestion of action to the next, thinking the next one is better than the last. It's a vicious circle of non-action. The worst part is being sat at home watching and listening to tales of other's glory, as opposed to living it yourself. It can make you feel fired up alright, but you're still sat there.

This is why Kowalski’s advice is all that is needed at this stage. No analysis is required.

Stein, Thats how the PUS industry sells so many books.

People buying books for more information that they don't know works.

Stupid.

Ok went out, asked a bunch of people the time and where the bank was. Funny story though, first person i asked couldnt actually speak properly and had to hand gesture where things were while grunting, it was an awkward five minutes.
Anyway, i suppose the next step would be approaching women i would like to actually open properly but just ask them the same or is there anything else i could be doing? I could do with assignments.

Stop a woman & ask for directions then as she's giving you the directions but in on her & say:

"Look I don't even want directions, I just wanted to stop you & say hi because I think you look nice/friendly/gorgeous/beautiful/lovely/horny"

One step at a time. Stop women you find attractive first.

Well done on approaching people, its a good step in the right direction.

I agree with Kowalski's take on your situation however you might find a book called "Rules of the Game" useful.

Overall it's not going to give you too many routines but it's a 30 day plan that is supposed to take you from not talking to anybody to asking a girl on a date. plus you can post your progress here and we can make sure you don't give up!

You might find it useful as it starts out with small talk to strangers and builds up to talking to girls and asking one out - you won't be a pimp after the 30 days but you will at least be able to make small talk with a woman...

Right, just ordered it from amazon, only £6.29, cant argue with that.
Im just going to take a few small steps at a time. I like to read stuff though as it psykes me up a little. Better than i can do it to myself anyway.

Well done for what you done so far. No problem with reading and taking as small steps as you can manage. I've been reading a lot and am also taking baby steps. But remember the theory has to go hand-in-hand with the practice. If you feel pumped at any point, put the book down and go out and turn that energy into action.

Some good posts there with wise words (thanks given) just making me realise how caught up in these books I've become (and we all have done this I believe at some point).

Its marketing and therefore it's designed to be attractive (so you will part with your cash) but ultimately until you can find the gumption to do get up and do something it's all just cerebral chewing gum.

What's so wrong with telling an attractive woman she's attractive. Is it against some law to tell the truth, or would she be mortally offended. I doubt it.