ok guys so we all know about how being direct during the day can be great, it makes the girl feel special, few guys have the balls to do it, it makes her day. a few nights ago i went out and tried a few direct approaches in a club, now wen i say direct i mean,
" i think u are absoultely stunin and i had to come over and say hi"

now in the past i always thot this wud never work, but a friend of mine was able to do it with some success, and i thot it was alot better/faster than doin some indirect bullshit routine, i always feel like a douche askin, 'yea guys can i get a quick opinion from u", anyway my approches didnt seem to work to well.thing is i always have the worst luck pickin girls, like every girl i approach has their bf standing directly behind me lol, so my approaches didnt seem to work i got a kinda, " im a bit creeped out/ scare" vive from one girl, maybe goin direct puts alot of pressure on the girl, if shes shy she may not no how to deal with it and just 'run away'.

i believe however that i didnt sell wat i was sayin, i think they cud pick up that i didnt really mean it deep down, it wasnt unique to them, i belive this was my mistake, but as i have not received great results from goin direct i am findin it hard to have teh confience to approach this way in the future as i have faced rejection, classical condtionin comin into play fs. so im goin try it again tomorrow night, goin speak slower more confidently and really try and be genuine in wat im sayin.

have u guys tried this type of opener in a club? any thots on this in general?



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yeee Iv tryed this a couple times in a club enviroment, when I say it, the girl just smiles and carrys on what shes doing, and as if she trys as hard as possible not to look at me , she either trying to say (and i get this vibe from her) 'umm get away from me i dont want nothing to do with you' or she is imbarresed or ....i dont know lol ?

uh, iv tried this in the past and some girls just ignore u because they get it all the time u no the gorgeous 1's who get guys attention all the time i call these head turners. u need 2 neg them type of girls.

If you're getting a blank stare, it's probably because you're waiting for her to respond. You need to move swiftly on, as if you said nothing special. If you appear needy, waiting for her to validate your remark with a response, you fucked it.

Well at least you know where your'e going wrong.

For me going direct has been so much easier than any other approach because it's exactlty what is on my mind as I am talking to the girl; I do genuinely think she is beautiful and I do genuinely want to know her name, because I do genuinely want to get her back to mine to fuck her silly brains out. When women can sense that you are the real thing, they will take you a lot more seriously.
Keep eye contact, chest out and speak from your belly with a big smile on your face, and she will be interested in what you have to say, even if its complete jibberish.

I can vouch for Summer Junky here, i've seen him do this a number of times. When you do approach direct with that line (and i've used that exact line a few times) you have to say it to the girls you genuinely do find attractive otherwise it won't be effective. I've found when i've said that to girls I wasn't too arsed about I got negative responses and I felt like I was cheating and being dishonest with myself.

For added effect I like to say the line quite slowly, maintain eye contact the whole time and pause as I speak to increase sexual tension. So for me it's;

'Hi, you look absolutely....(Pause)....stunning, and I had to meet you, my names xxxxx' and then offer your hand.

I need to get back to using that line!...lately i've plateaued and found myself using opinion openers again which are far more time consuming and involve too much bull-shit for my liking.

interesting.

direct openers are themost gutsy... but with more risk, there is more pride in the result!

i think the right, socially confident target will succomb to a direct approach well, but you perhaps have to be prepared for a total shutdown every now and again lol

Picard.

Pride is what smothers every man from being upfront with a girl, and scared in case people listening laugh at him. They chances are, the people who do hear your direct approach on a girl will actually be envious, as they simply don't have the balls to do the same... even though they dream about doing it.

"Going direct in a club" may work against you if it's not done with the RIGHT target. The female you're trying to get with should be receptive to you. Two guys can use the same opener with the same woman and get two totally different responses. Having met and "pulled" a bunch of females out of the club, it wasn't so much WHAT I said...rather, it was everything else--the situation, her level of interest, namely.

It makes no sense to pay any serious attention or "go direct" to the following women in the club:
-women in groups of 4 or more (the chances she'll leave her flock of friends is next to none)
-female attention whores (girls who dance on each other and wear skimpy outfits but reject every guy who approaches)
-women who come to the club with "guy friends" (they're f*cking...unless their related. Either way, it's not going to happen)
-women who've already seen you, yet show no signs of interest (IOI's, as you might say)

Instead, these are the woman who you should target
-Women who come in a group of 3 or less (a woman who comes alone is perfect)
-Women who've already shown interest in you (smiled at you, have made eye contact, asked you a random question, brushed by you, etc)
-Women who are slightly more reserved. You'll be surprised that THESE are the biggest freaks

There are always exceptions, but if these rules are followed, you'll encounter the least resistance and save a TON of energy.

My advice is to place more emphasis on ladies that are receptive to being approached, feeling her particular vibe, and just stepping up. Honestly, telling a woman she's "stunningly beautiful" is nothing she's probably never heard 1000 times earlier that week....and she'll only be flattered if she finds you attractive first.

I love it when you get this type of girl. Perhaps quiet on the outside, relatively straight-shooting, not too obvious...

....then when it comes to the F-Close, they take an absolute pounding! and LOVE IT!

potential new thread on that topic lol

Picard.