Something I've noticed about going direct in the day is that sometimes you can lose social comfort if it isn't done right.

Of course, everytime you do a chodey indirect approach you maintain a level of social comfort because if your asking for directions or an opinion she will assume that that is all you want and be comfortable about the fact that you are talking to her.

However, if you go direct sometimes she may feel a little uncomfortable straight away because she has just been approached by a stranger and the first words that you say are pretty full on, eg, "hey, your really hot I had to come and meet you". Because she doesn't feel comfortable with you straight away sometimes the approach will fall apart.

"Whats the solution? We don't want to be running around doing chodey indirect openers!" I hear you cry.

Don't worry I have the solution. The solution is to 1) be polite, and, 2) pace her reality (look at me bringing back the old skool game lingo Cheesy). To give an example, imagine theres a girl walking very fast down the street and you want to stop her and chat her up. You could open with "Excuse me, I know your probably in a hurry somewhere and I don't mean to interrupt but... I just saw you from down the street and you are absolutely gorgeous, I'd be kicking myself if I didn't come and meet you".

In any given situation you can do the same thing "Excuse me, I know your probably waiting for someone", "Excuse me, I know your shopping", etc, etc.

I agree with Kowalski - it's Direct Game (clue's in the title) so don't apologise for being direct.

No, it won't work on everyone, but you're raising the bar with direct day-game and so the chances are the girls that respond to this are going to already be open and up for further interaction.

It's a high risk strategy but when did playing safe ever get you the HB7's or above?

Let us all know what you try and how it goes - Good luck Halcyon.

"You shouldn't care what else she is up to or be sorry for interrupting her. This kind of talk is the opposite of going direct and kills all the power of what you are about to say."

Really! You shouldn't care what she's up too?!? Think about what you're saying dude. If a girl is clearly in a massive hurry and you don't give a fuck than your much more likely to get blown off. If you don't believe me than try it ten times with pacing her reality and ten times without, see which gets you more success.

Your not sorry for interrupting otherwise you wouldn't have done it, rather your showing that your polite. This will be appreciated 10 times out of 10. Its not about filling a girl with negative emotions its about filling her with positive ones.

And it absolutely doesn't kill any of the power, if anything it amplifies it. Initially a girl is still trying to register exactly whats going on when you stop her directly as she's moving in the street. This gives her a second to register that she's being talked to and she begins listening attentively, at which point you convey that you had to stop her cause she's absolutely gorgeous.

At no point do you apolagise for being a man, quite the contrary your acting on your impulses. However, you do display the social intelligence to know whats going on and create a degree of social comfort.

I'm gonna be out filming some stuff today so I'll try and get this on in field video for anyone who doesn't get it.

So if a girl is flying down the street in a hurry and you can't use "excuse me...." to open with, what do you start it off with apart from "hey....."?

I've tried tripping them up but find that this kind of direct game doesn't work either!

I think you guys are taking Kowalski too literally - I know what he is saying and I think he's right....if you keep saying sorry and excuse me and apologising for yourself you might aswell get an AFC tattoo on your forehead!

There is a difference between confidence and arrogance. And a difference between arrogance and rudeness. Get yourself into a positive frame and when you know that you are worth stopping and talking to then it will start to project onto others - it will give the line 'there's just something about him' relevance to you.

Happy sarging - and yes, put some video's up - we'd love to see them. Hope you undertsand what I mean and that it works out for you in the field.

Hmm. I think everyone interacts differently, and you just go with what feels comfortable.
I have to admit though I agree with Kowalski on this. If your intention is strong enough and your instantly giving out a positive vibe (it's all in the eyes) then you won't have to 'pace her reality', she will just instantly feel intrigued and will want to hear what you have to say...most of the time.

If you get caught up in the 'details' such as debating over 'Excuse me' or not as an opening gambit then you will lose sight of the bigger picture. If you truly believe yourself to be the fucking man, then you are the fucking man, say or do what you like and it's always golden.

with all respect for Kowalski ... Halcyon is absolutely right here .

i wouldnt say "I don't mean to interrupt" though. unless u are gay .

I should say both of you are right up to the point . it is god to show social consciousness before you go direct . after preparing the ground you are treated more seriously. dont forget it is a day time . but dont show too "gentle " and too "aware" aither . dont say "sorry for interupting" or other stupid things . have a good weekand boys ...