Hi all- since breaking up with the gf a few months ago, I've been on a few dates

As usual, the ones I couldn't see it going far with, are the ones who want me lol

Two different meal dates I went on, went really well, talking non-stop about all sorts of things, making each other laugh etc

Yet the texting in week or so after dries up

Do most of you guys simply say next once they don't get back to you, or do you persevere some-what?

if she doesn't text back. i just forget about it.

u always gotta have numerous on the go. (at first b4 anything gets serious)

options give u leverage

Good advise but also abc, 'always be closing'.

To me I don't text constantly, mainly because I don't have time or energy to be having conversations via text also because mine also have a tendancy to dry up, so I'm usually texting to arrange the next meet. try and make sure you at least get as far as kino/kissing in the first date otherwise your not showing enough intent.

Against most people on heres thought I wouldn't be scared to try and take people back to yours on a first date though, from my experience more mature girls will go for it if they're into you, less mature ones tend to want to do the 'dating ritual' but again 'always be closing' and pushing the conversation/situation forward at *her* fastest pace.

You say they dry up after a week or so? I would advise hinting at a second meet in your first couple of texts after your first meet, then a little fun and flirting and then propose the meet during the peak of conversation before it 'drys up'. You want to do it during the most interesting part of the conversation rather than getting caught up in it and waiting till at the end, I find at least.

Db

Ok cool

The latest one, I text asking how her weekend was and something about her dads boat (I'd been to Poole harbour)
She replied good, what you been up to blah blah
In next message I asked if she was free Sunday afternoon
Said she was
I suggested going to the town for afternoon and maybe karting if good weather
She replied- arent only tracks so and so
Then that was it

Blimey, go-karting?! She's probably wishing you'd just ask her for a drink.

Far too much effort here, you care too much. Karting? Problem is, that's like taking a girl to the cinema, you're near each other but you can't converse.

Read the threads on here on texting. Just be a bit more forward, make the decisions and don't ask needy questions (any questions).

Yup too true, I think I veer of course a bit if Im very attracted to a girl, this will help me learn my lesson

It helps to make women a lesser priority in your life. It's far too easy to get caught up with one girl, if you don't have others on the go.

Appropriate thread for my situation.

Agree with Phil - have several options, that way you care less.

I'm finding that the 'dating' thing isn't really working, in my case I just end up playing by their rules and then it's done really.

I always try to be creative for the 1st date, in retrospect I think this is too try-hard - if there were many options going out to a bar for a drink would be the best play, then maybe get creative after I've banged her ha

To offer my perspective on dates - work on expanding your social activities. Go to a wider range of bars, restaurants and music venues. Go to museums and art exhibitions if it takes your fancy with or without your friends.

This way you feel a lot more comfortable with social situations, you have lesss time to worry about girls and texting them and when you do have dates you have something that is a little more interesting to do than either the bar and not as involved as go karting.

My favourite in Exeter is the Underground Tunnels (a historic exhibition and tour of passages not a euphemism).
Not too expensive, interesting if you want to pay attention, you're still able to talk, crawl around the tunnels and have a good giggle plus it is different from most dates girls go on. When it's over it is right next to a couple of nice bars and cafes for an impromptu drink after...