Got my Bristol bird coming up to stay for a couple of nights next week. When I saw her in Bristol she told me she finds it hard to get turned on and is into Japanese S&M. I've been watching a few vids and chatted to a couple of mates about it. I just wondered if you chaps have any experiences or advice for beginner.

She has told me she likes:

- getting tied up
- rape simulation (she told me her ex was rubbish at this as he wasn't taking it seriously)
- getting told what to do

The last point I found the most interesting as I can now mull over what shit I want her to do for me. Again, suggestions welcome. I guess the main issue I'm going to have is how I behave. I need to make it convincing, and not pussy about.

If you're naturally dominant (like me) you'll be fine if you're not you won't.

Yeh, you need to be naturally kinda turned onish by this. Wank over it a few times you'll be fine

Not sure what I can take from your message except 'if you got, you got it'. I'm more of the school of thought, 'if you want it, you can get it'.

Luckily I love the idea of all of what she suggests and am really looking forward to it. I now see this as something I could introduce to other girls, or even awaken their secret desires. I also appreciate this girl's willingness to be so open with me, as it's not something I would have considered without her.

Lately I've constantly been like this in the bedroom, trust me once you've done it you won't go back.

Anyway I find burning bridges the best way, build yourself up to be some cunt who's gonna smash the shit out of her then it'll easier to let yourself be that guy than to pussy out..

I find it that way anyway, just go with it

Just don't oversell and under deliver. She'll have had a lot of that with guys and their inadequate egos.

Plus if it's your first time, she won't expect you to be spot on - just as long as you take it seriously and appear to mean it.

Build up to the really hardcore stuff later, you don't want to donkey punch her 20 mins in and have to call an ambulance...

if you like the idea, do it.

if not, seems like a lot of hard work just to get laid.

also, make sure ur not being wound up. Seems a pretty obscure thing to hear from a girl u havent fucked

Just to clarify. I fucked her already. I wouldn't be doing this if she hadn't thrown it out there. I also don't view this as 'hard work', and am not merely doing this for her enjoyment. I'm trying something new here, I'm excited.

Naawww... Nova's getting all giddy about his first S&M sesh.

Get her to sign a consent declaration because your one word from her way from a hefty jail term.