There is a lot of talk in the community about consistency and not having to be blown out too many times before you can make an approach that will result in a lay. It has even been mentioned a few times that being able to make one approach and get one lay in the club would be the ultimate goal, in other words 100% game.

There is no doubt that this would be pretty cool and sure it could happen from time to time. However, an important question to ask yourself is "why is this so appealing to you?". Clearly, there are a number of issues including; time saved, less energy wasted, etc, etc. However, I believe the primary reason why people find the notion of 100% game so appealing is because it means they will NEVER HAVE TO GET REJECTED!

Herein lies the problem. This may sound counterintuitive but people who desire to never be rejected will always be rejected!

I can go out and do some day game and I'd say it wouldnt be unreasonable to think that I could do about three approaches and out of those three I'd have a pretty good shot of getting the lay out of one of them. On occassion it might even be one approach one lay, 100% game. However, on another day I might take 10 approaches to get the lay. Whats the difference? To me there is no difference, their just different configurations of the same end result because I really dont care about rejection. And since I dont care about rejection and I make no discrimination between these two occassions the latter example is much less likely.

The reality is that those who dont care about rejection and have no desire to eliminate it are rarely rejected.

This is the crux of outcome independence. If you strive to get 100% game by eliminating rejection than rejection will cast a shadow over your game forever. WHAT YOU RESIST PERSISTS.

Great post Halcyon, made a lot of sense. I used to be really fearful of rejection to the point where I wouldnt even make the effort to approach in order to keep my ego intact. In time and through the help of a few of the guys on this forum I learnt that the ego is more of a burden than anything and it is best to just let it go. Once you do this it is like having a weight lifted from your shoulders, it is a liberating sensation.

This weekend I went out and on the face of it you could say it was a bad night, in the majority of my approaches I got blown-out straight up!, this doesn't usually happen to me which I found odd. Nevertheless I went home feeling joyous, yes I got rejected, I got rejected in front of my friends, rejected in front of the friends of groups of girls, hell even other people in the club saw me get rejected. But I just didn't care, in fact it barely even registered on my radar.

A while back in these situations I would try and post-rationalise what had gone wrong. Now these sorts of things rarely come in to my concious thought after the event. Rejection no longer concerns me in the way it used to, there is always the possibility of rejection of course and if it occurs it's now like taking a hit like being shot with a potato gun rather than a sawn-off shot-gun as used to be the case.

To any guys out there who fear rejection, honestly go out there, get rejected, it's going to happen to you at some-point so you may as well get used to the sensation and nullyfying that sensation.

In the words of Paul Janka 'If the pools fucking freezing there's no point waiting an hour for it to warm up, it's still going to be fucking freezing so just take the plunge'.

... looks like i might learn couple of things in here