Apart from shagging and kissing pretty ladies, what else can pick up do for you?

I'm kind of side stepping from the community. Although I still see myself as a pickup artist (i'm only a pick up artist on this forum, because it winds people up), I'm also a punk rocker, but I've never been able to express this fully, until I lost my social hangups and used the skills learned to become socially awesome.

Unfortunately I've had to move back to Burnley. When I first moved to Burnley a few years ago, I was a little socially awkward, shy etc. Then I met the pick up guys here, discovered RSD. This all led me down a life changing path, and I've made a few best friends along the way.

Now I've moved back to Burnley, I've had to start from scratch a little. At first (a few months back), it was about going out by myself in Burnley and kissing or shagging as many girls as possible. But something funny happened which I wasn't really expecting . I started to make friends. In hindsight, this is an obvious consequence on just going out and giving as much value and love to everyone you meet. For a start, there were random guys and girls buying me drinks. Inviting to afterparties, gigs etc. I started to get into the punk scene here in Burnley (didn't know there was one). Just by going out, smling, enjoying the music and being generally friendly, I've attracted some good friends over the past month.

I tried this going out to Liverpool one day by myself, and managed to hang out with a cool bunch of people. So basically, I have the flexibility to go out anywhere I want to (punk gigs etc), and just chill and make friends. So someone who was as socially awkward as me a few years ago this was unheard of. Basically now every single weekend is an adventure for me and I don't have to rely on others that I already know to make it great.

If anyone here is thinking of giving up pickup or having second thoughts don't! Even for the social freedom it gives you, where you can go anywhere in the English speaking world and have a good time, it is fucking worth it.

Just an insight into my world, thinking about the weekend makes me sick with excitement. Is this normal? In general, I'm happier. Hope this inspires some of you guys.

Why not flip that mindset. Go out to have fun, the girls will follow...

This kind of says you haven't really understood my post. I could be wrong.

Sapmi, you posts of late could not exactly be described as lucid and are often followed by you telling fellow members who take the time to read and reply that they "don't understand" your post

I can't help thinking that it isn't our ability to comprehend your writings but your execution in communicating your musings...

oh yeh! lol:

I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua I'm a pua

What is this FUN word you talk of? Is it kind of a technique I should learn. Being a PUA I love techniques

There are no pick up artists.

There are no routines.

There are no techniques.

There is only you, having a social interaction with a woman and it is the most natural fucking thing in the world. Because it's all you were born to you. The only thing you were born to do was have sex, and the only reason you're here is because two people had sex before you.

That's what life is. Fuck.

There must be a technique to have fun surely. How does one stand for instance? Do you have to move your arms in a certain way too? Are you also allowed to ask people "having fun?". Teach me, teach me!

It's a great feeling isn't it. I am starting to see the benefits of this also, i.e. I went to an art gallery last week alone and chatted to a few people, and ended up making a few friends. Previously I would also have been uncomfortable with this.

One question i have for you Mark. Are drugs still a factor on these nights out?


There's a fine line between seeing yourself as a PUA and just striving to improve yourself. I find the former can be a vicious circle.

Not every night mate, but between you and me, a sneeky pint of John Smiths lubricates my little social engine sometimes. Getting well into ales too

All this has given me inspiration to start a band again, just doing punk rock covers for now. Cant fucking wait!!

Being able to choose new friends is awesome