Saturday night in mancs i went on a date with somone who ticked almost every box i have.
somone that in over 300 dates ive never come across.

It was a totally perfect night, blonde petite czech girl.

she is a really nice genuine girl, has been here for 5 years and in that time had a few english boyfriend who treat her like crap and gave her a dim view of them (us)

anyway, we virtualy held hands the entire night, got back to hers and literally hugged for 2 hours--were totally inseperable

she was as much into me as me her.


anyway at the start of the night when i picked her up she asked me if we could drop her m8 off in mancs to her boyfriend so i said sure-- her m8 gets in my car , leggy and very hot czech chick.
quick chat i found out she was a personal trainer on the way.
recognisd her from my dates friend list on fbook.


so rolling forward the next day i ask czech girl if she minds if i add her friend on my fbook so i can ask her some questions about personal training
(ive been thinking about offering a service involving personal training and hypnotherapy for quite a while - kind of a totall body and mind rebuild)

so rolling onto today -- this mroning im bored at work, jump on fbook while i wait for a server to do somthing veeeeery slowly
get chatting to personal trainer in chat-- find out shes an ex famous athlete --so i find that even more interesting, chat for just over an hour-- NO flirting at all

then i get a txt off czech date--- 'seems your more interested in my friend than me, im sorry but i dont want to see you again'

im totally gutted!!!! beyond beleif -- so i txt her a few times, no reply and her phones off, so i think to myself if we can talk face to face we`ll sort it out as its just a misunderstanding.

I LIE to my boss to get out of work and i drive over to her house (an hour away) for when she finishes work at 3 -- on the way i think hang on this is a bit weird - so i txt her and say, im just coming over for a chat dont worry.

i wait outside her house for 20 mins- her mum walks out on the phone and walks back in--- so i know shes not there and rang forward to see if i am.

so i txt czech girl and say look if you are worried i`ll go i just wanted to talk

she txts and says shes not there and it wont make a difference and she doesnt want to talk..

so i leave.


HOLY FUCK what the FUCK AM I PLAYING AT --- i would never have done this with any of the other 300 dates id been on.

since then ive sent her an email explaiing things and just saying i wont txt her again and to get in touch if she wants too.


im lost i dont know what to do-- i`ll just push her away if i do anything, i can only do nothing?


whats your take on it?

Dude your choded out now.. the e-mail explaining stuff is a noooooo.

reflex you were my hero.

Total fuck up

Think im just gonna drop a few Benzos and lie on the sofa in a haze and forget about it

Go for the friend ;-)

Major fuck up, ouch. Putting on my eastern european chick expert hat ... they have no concept of men and women being "friends". East european guys (as shes already told you) play the field at every opportunity and shes just assuming you are doing likewise.

My advice for getting her back is to throw away the PUA handbook - make a grand romantic gesture, send flowers (odd number of roses) to her house saying that your going to take her out on saturday to buy an outrageously sexy pair of high heels. Even if she tells you shes still not interested, turn up anyway and don't take no for an answer. With an EU its not over until she has told you to piss off to your face.

Remove her mate from facebook. Warn all your female friends not to post personal messages on your FB wall (or remove any likely to do so anyway). Talk and explanations wont cut it, EU girls expect to see actual demonstration of intent.

For future reference Dont FB/txt/email/phone any of her friends, ever except in the direst emergency, and never let her find out that you spent any significant one-to-one time with any non-family member woman no matter how innocent. Going "out for a drink" with a female friend for example is an absolute no no. Don't txt/phone/email etc any non-family woman in her presence. Bring her flowers and chocolate at least once every week or two. Open doors for her, take her coat off and pull the seat out for at restaurants, help her out of the car when you stop, always offer to carry her bags. Compliment her frequently. That should keep you in good shape

Sounds like too much hard work to be honest lol

To make the OP feel better:

1 In your heart of hearts, do u really want a girl who turns on a coin like that... to become totally disinterested in u, due to a misunderstanding which she fails to ever accept? Women need to accept misunderstandings!

2 You'll see your bird in Ukraine, in only two months time

3 Also, go spend some quality time enjoying life, doing more enjoyable stuff, no chasing pussy with worrying about the psychology of the latest mind-fuck. Do your own thing, your own hobby whatever and chill away from chasing/stressing on women for a bit. Enter a sports competition or something. Just shift your intense focus onto some different shit for a bit!

Indeed, and of course you will need the fitness level of an olympic athlete to keep them satisfied in bed. Once you've had one though you'l never go back to "normal" woman.

Why? What's so chodey about trying to explain the situation? Gawd, I give up!

This.
Let her calm down. And try and see her again for a face to face chat if possible. Seriously, if you are smitten by her after beeing with 300 previous girls (dates), then she must be someone very very pecial. You won't just let a small misunderstanding to get in the way. However, once you know you have done your best to get her back, then it is time to move on as hard as it may be...! Good luck fella.