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A mate just called me. He wants to set me up with some American chick who is arriving tonight. So onwards ever onwards! Thanks guys.

@Rel3x. I won't be drinking too much.

Just deleted all texts and number, plus received and made calls to her. It's like cleaning ashtrays and lighters out of your house when you've quit smoking; good riddance to bad rubbish!

I think that when she sent back, "Darling, i'm thinking of you, i have very nice memories too..x" , You should have left it there and waited for her to call/ text you.

Must've been hard though with her going away and that, but thats a genuine text from her. Seems like it kinda went downhill after you replied to it?

Please refer to American F-close for the next thrilling instalment of this drama!

Ok, so I didn't answer her call last night and she sent two text messages this morning:

"Good morning, how are u? Are u still mad at me? X Jul(ia)"

I did not respond. A few minutes later:

"It's a pitty we didn't sleep tgth last night so we could still be in bed knuddeling.. (German for canoodling)"

What should I do next? Despite the fact I fucked another girl last night, I still miss her and have some feelings for her. But, as one of my female friends told me last night, "You should play hard to get with her."

Just out of badness I'm almost tempted to send her, "Well, you were too busy for me, so that gap's been filled I'm afraid." Lol that might be taking it a tad too far though, probablly better to just let her imagine.

Just texted back instead, "U didn't seem to have any time for me so I moved on."

If you go back to her I'll lose all respect for you mate.

What's the point of deleting all of her from your life only to let her crawl back in with a text and the idea of some sex.

Move and and be done with it once and for all

im pretty sure if midas wants to go back to her, you shouldn't really be putting ur pence in an makin him feel bad about it! he is a big boy, and will learn through actions!

to be fair tho midas i dont think u should get back with her for a whole other reason! this is a cycle destined to continue, and not because of her shortfall, but yours!!

u dont trust her clearly, and its not gonna change! doubt is sown & therefore... u mayswell bin it.

unless ur gonna let go of ur shit

let her go!

She's now found out that I was with another woman last night and has been calling me in tears and bombarding me with messages. She tried to play me, she got burnt, simple as.

make sure you read this too: http://www.puaforum.co.uk/field-repo...n-f-close.html

I bumped into her last night when I was out and we talked. She looked heartbroken, it was fucking gutting.

Shit-stirrers have been telling her that I am a player and have slept with half of Palermo. Indeed that would be some feat! They have no idea. I've always been faithful in relationships and NEVER tell lies.

There is this rule in PUA to leave them better than you found them. How does anyone manage to do that? It seems like utter shit. If your game is any good then obviously the girl is going to fall in love with you and be hurt when you move on.

It's a quandary man. You're exactly right that if you get someone to seriously emotionally invest in you and then it all ends then there's bound to be a feeling of resentment.

I've unfortunately been there myself and found that the only way to allow you both to move on is total separation. With my LTR's that went southward in the past we simply had to get out of each others lives for a while. No texting, deletion from facebook, everything; until we were over the pain, which has taken as long as a couple of years, at which point we can reconnect (if we want to) without the bitterness.

Remember that time heals all wounds...

thats a shit phrase but unfortunately i learned the hard way its true

Totally understand where you are coming from on this, but isn't this only what she was doing to you in the first place? I mean she was prepared to let you go without a second thought about your feelings.

I'm not saying that it's cool to leave a girl hurt, but in this case I don't think I'd have much sympathy for her. She started playing the games, not you my friend.

Don't let this cut you up because none of it is your fault - it's hers.

Much love,

Craigus

Except decapitation - there's no coming back from that shit...

Apparently, she was just shit-testing me to the maximum after our last break-up. Not cool though, it gets seriously annoying.

After I ignored her a couple of times she was ready to come running to me, but by then it was too late, I'd already fucked another bird and she knows about it.

She did take the game playing too far though you're right about that. She pushed me in the wrong direction. She accepts this. I told her I'm not going to apologise for what I did as I considered myself single.

Time to call it a day I guess.

Erm... she kind of called me again, really sweet and humble, wanting to see me, saying that she was missing me and shit... so I kind of did shag her again yesterday... whoops... I guess I got my control back though, one way or another, which was the original point of this thread.

Anyway, we did get back together for a bit and it was nice for a while but inevitably went to shit again. We argued about the fact that she hardly had any time on her hands and we weren't seeing each other much. She had her cousins over and was with them the whole time etc etc...

I got the feeling that she didn't feel the same way about me anymore and when we broke up again (her choice) I felt pretty unapreciated. It left me feeling quite bitter for a while actually and still does a bit. I've been through quite a few packs of Camel Blue. I wonder if cigarette companies pay women to fuck with our heads.

I'm sure I'll get over it soon. It's just that shitty feeling when you felt that someone was really into you and then they are not anymore and so you start doubting yourself a little.

She's barking mad anyway. She saw me giving some Russian chick (not couchsurfer) a lift home. When I bumped into her again that night and told her I was just giving that doll a lift, she ended up hanging around me until all her friends had gone home and there was just me, her and my mate left at 7 in the morning. Stupidly, after my mate got his bus, I dropped her at home and we had another snog, which she doesn't remember.

Now it turns out that she's pining after the guy that she chose me over, just because she saw him with a new gf. She didn't want him when he wanted her... she wanted me.

I told her many times she should be with him because he's a nice guy and she just said, "I'm not in love with him." He doesn't want to know anyway and fair fucks to him. She only seems to want what she can't have.

It was good sex anyway... the biiiitch! Deleted from facebook!

From another thread about my similar relationship troubles:

Amen to that brother.

I feel your pain!!

Much love,

Craigus

I think you 2 should stop being a bunch of pussys and man the fuck up, stop living in some stupid chicks dramas and live your own life

Hahaha! Amen to that too, Refl3x!

Yeah, reading your thread gave me deja vu!