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This is my first ever written log approaching, hopefully it'll inspire some people to approach more and enjoy game.

I'm going to outline it with a recent success/fail if it's worth it, and if not I'll tell a past story, then finish with a ramble.

Thursday 13th Feb- Cycled home during rush hour wish is rare for me, in a high grade mood due to finishing work earlier. At a red light I noticed a very in shape lady also cycling, get off to walk accross the light, who was wearing a pollution mask-

me- YOU THERE, IN THE MASK!

Her- What...?

me- Sorry to interrupt evasion of the red light, I wanted to ask if your mask is any good? I'm looking at getting one so I can live longer and not catch the corona virus.

Her- *surprised laugh* yes actually it's good I guess....

She then removed the mask and was telling me the brand name when I interrupted her-

Me- Oh shit! I really thought you'd be an old lady but you're shockingly cute, whats your name?

Her- *even more surprised laughter* Dani

She was way more receptive than I expected because I was looking dishevelled (and more importantly, was getting mega hungry) and she was hot as hell, managed to get a 2 minute random chat on the pavement in, acknowledging the funny awkwardness of the situation when people were walking around us to get past. Teased her for forgetting my name even though I hadn't said it, and talked shit about who could cycle fasted.

Told her I liked her energy and that I'd get a drink with her but unfortunately tonight was the only free evening I had for the next week... luckily she was too so I number closed and told her I'd send a bar to meet at 9pm after eating dinner.


The drink went really well, she's mega confident and there were a lot of 'frame control battles' aka banter to see who reacts more to who. I often dont go for the kiss on a first drink to build tension but we ended up making out alot, only didn't pull because of an early start the next day. The plan is Uno at mine at some point next week, we'll see. High value girl who's been on a TV show so has got a lot of attention from other dudes, and I'm busy AF right now.


Most annoying 'fail' springing to mind recently was not approaching a girl because I was late for work, she was at least a 15/10 so should have gone for it, pussssssy.

Why lie tho?


Peace,

kowalski

Cool stuff man. Wouldn't beat yourself up about not approaching a girl because you were late for work though, long as that was the actual reason and not you rationalising your way out of doing what you wanted to do. Obviously bottling it's never good, but we all gotta live so hey.

There's a difference between talking to a girl while you happen to be on a bicycle commuting and going out round town on a bicycle strapped with a camera trying to approach people my dude.

Maybe it was all a dream , I used to read Word Up! magazine, Salt-n-Pepa and Heavy D up in the limousine.


Yeah but it's not the end of the world if i'm late for work, so a part of it was using it as an excuse.

It would be great if you didn't reply to this thread, at all, because you need to stop cold approaching. Like, completely stop, until you get therapy, at least 1 friend, and a job.

So I saw the bike girl 2nd date at hers, such a beautiful view of the city in her 1 bedroom apartment. Was a funny one because she was all over the place on 2 hours sleep, kept fighting her urges to bang with her rationality of 'never having casual sex'. Didn't push the bang because of how 5050 she was, had a opportunity to lie and say I'd be down to date exclusively when she was trying to articulate how her arabic background makes her really uncomfortable when guys arn't fully committed to her... it's all good, no point messing with this girls emotions.

This week I've just been seeing FBs and my main FWB twice who I get great vibes from. One Bumble date with a metal/animi chick who's insanely hot, but the definition of a good girl. Never had a FWB, no tattoos, never tried ciggs/drugs, got a 2 drink rule.... Will see her again because she that hot, and a dark sense of humor.

DAYGAMING today, first time in a couple week specifically going to Brick lane to get numbers/instant dates. Want to make up for a lack of approaching on the way to work, got a free session with a potential client and it's a beautiful day!

How are you going to pay the costs? Get a job.

Glad to hear you're trying to get a job, I read that you are 'long term unemployed' so assumed you'd given up. There's an app called 'intonations' that was recommended by a friend who's moved to a new city, says it's good for making friends. Therapy can be gotten through the NHS. I'm sure that my above advice would be better for you than a coaching session, goodluck.



Anyway, had a really fun session in Brick lane today. Was in a really good mood because 1) Did 11 straight handstand pushups/2x 15 second tuck planches/6 1APU + a coffee before going out. Then just as I left the house, I got an unexpected text from the bumble date inviting me to her house for dinner on Thursday, along with a sample picture of her cooking, which looks exquisite.

My most solid close was on the way to brick lane with a chick who just come from a fitness convention, high grade physique and just really friendly. Text back n forthduring the day and sent her a video of my in brick lane schooling some guy who'd set up chess tables, had a massive crowd watching too!

Had a couple sets that didn't hook as well as normal, but state stayed high because I was with a fun wing. Offered someone 'PEACE, LOVE AND WISDOM' while closing my eyes who found it hilarious, and went on to chat shit about a psychic had told me I was going to meet a sexy wearing a purple top who was unable to eat her food properly (the chick had missed her mouth while I was talking). Carried this sillyness on for a while.
The idea to chat shit about a psychic comes from one of my FWB who is really into this stuff, crystal balls and the like, personally i find it slightly insane....

Most notable part of the day was meeting my fav FWB and doing a double date in central with a 9/10 Isrealie girl my wing had just approached. SHe felt really comfortable when my FWB arrived because of the even numbers and social proof my wing got. He ended up nearly banging her at his, while we watched 'The gentleman' (epic movie!).

Got a feeling this week coming up is going to be a madness! Will be posting infield audio clips for your enjoyment too.

Last week was solid fun all round, bumble day2 was a success (played super smash brothers) and had one of the fastest pulls from an engagement party ever that was real smooth/natural .

Just wanted to put it out there that the CORONA virus should be a time to really step up the good deeds AKA gaming!!!!!!!!!!!

Sounds like you're having fun, which is cool. But don't be recording stuff without girls consent. It's just really unethical, and wrong.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBjgjkb_xEc

What do you think of audio only? I don't think its unethical, there's no way her identity will be revealed. Uncensored infields, yeah, I hear you. 1000000s of funny videos from things happening in public are posted without consent too, are they unethical?

The next one I'll post is an audio with 'Oh my gosh, my girlfriend would find you SO attractive'.

So I have to admit, I was wrong. I only did 1 (average) approach the whole of this week, and 0 dates because of the Corona virus messing with my state of mind, family and work (self employed) needs a lot more attention and fortitude.

One plus is nearly all my FWBs still need that strong D. Even had one (stripper) come out the woodwork from ages ago to help her Dickless self quarantine situation. Because there's no value in the single cold approach story, here's how I closed the stripper FWB a while back-

Approached indirect at the gym, complimenting her human flag practice. Not in a 'oh wow look at you way' but in a You're doing well, have you ever done it properly? It took me ages to get down'. Early on in the interaction I could feel her sas and confidence, which I like a lot. Had never seen her before and found out she was only there on a guestpass- perfect.
She said she did pole dancing which i reacted positively, commenting I 'dated' someone who was insane at it and could do the catapiller (upside down shoulder pressing yourself up the pole), which she was annoyed at because its another move she wants to improve on.
Fast forward to after we bang, I always 'interview' chicks after banging, asking when they knew they wanted to fuck me. You often learn interesting things.

She said it was when I closed her, I got her instagram and read out her profile description out loud-

'My heels are bigger than your dick'

I pause, look at her in the eyes

'You don't know me'

She laughs and hits me in the arm like a schoolgirl. Turns out she was right anyway, 8.5 inches, if only hahaha.

Can write this story at 1.36am because the only thing I'm doing tomorrow is driving down to Brighton, a 1 day trip instead of the month trip to Asia I had planned. Fingers crossed we don't have to evade the army fml.

I'm just impressed if you weren't just running game in that convo and can actually do a human flag tbh. Where were you going in asia?

The initial interaction was the note worthy part. From the Instagram close, set up a date a bar near mine, couple hours into it offered to show her the view from my balcony (unfortunately no longer live in a place where I can say that!) and we had a great time.

Thanks mate! That took me years to do because I love heavy squatting too much- big legs make the leverages harder. Big fan of calisthenics, what about yourself? My flight to Bangkok left a few days ago, I had plans to visit a bunch of places because I've never been, oh well.

Might venture to other sections of the forum to contribute, right now I'm focusing on making £ and grateful for the FWB I have that are still up for meeting... with the lockdown I can't see new stuff of interest to report. Did match with a 15/10 on tinder today, but would be shocked if her DMS arn't saturated AF and doesn't reply.

No callisthenics for me, I do MMA so most of my training revolves around stuff to support that. Got a couple of mates who do callisthenics though, some of that shit's mad impressive.

And that's too bad man, I was supposed to be heading back out to Phuket for 6 months and get out there in time for Songkran, but had to put the whole thing on hold.

Nice! Before I got into calisthenics I was big into rugby, where you need similar energy systems as MMA- Speed, power, agility, endurance, tekkers, mental toughness. Your training is wayyy more demanding and impressive than doing a few strength feats! After a few BJJ classes I got big into watching UFC, are you as excited/hopeful that Ferguson Vs Khabib happens? And have you competed in MMA?

Maybe one day I'll catch you in Phuket, who knows.

UPDATE! I got my first number close since the virus started, and got a reply from the 15/10 on tinder! Will post the tinder convo if it escalates, I recon my last reply was on point by we'll see.

Number close- Workout out in the sun yesterday, started chatting to an Armenian girl (in London for 3 months) doing assisted chinups. Convo flowed naturally, although she was very paranoid about the virus, wearing gloves and a face mask.

When she mentioned her dad trained her and used to be a professional football player, I said 'So you must be fast' - her reply "Faster than you, yeah". OOOOOH I loved that. We raced but before we started she took her mask off- 100% hottie. Looking back I probably smoked her too hard, gave it everything I had and she got a TINY bit pissed off when I gave her a playful (gloved) touch on the elbow saying good effort "HEY, SOCIAL DISTANCING" aka 'I'm annoyed you just destroyed me'. Fair enough, didn't react besides a quick 'my bad' and moved the conversation on.

Will ask her to workout with me when I next am in the area, not any other date options right now and don't have time to build it over whatsapp- got to keep working hard and I counted 40 whatsapp convos just today from clients/social, not including instagram. Texting is actually doing my head in a bit!

If anyone replies asking about the 15/10 i'll post the convo, went well to whatsapp and a couple calls but she moved to manchester during lockdown. Can't be arsed to water the plant much until it's likely she'll move back.

Moving 2 of my cold approach clients to only online game has been fun, feel like it's also improved my online back to where it used to be when I focused on it before.

I'm in a new place that's perfect for throwing parties... CAN'T WAIT FOR
UNLOCKING LOCKDOWN TIME!!!

I'm curious about the conversation with your match.

As for lockdown unlock - 4th July is the date I'm waiting for, when at the time of writing, hospitality services resume (coffee shops I assume are included).

When it rains it pours
 

DRY PATCH (for new bangs) OVER!

Had 2 rubbish tinder dates where I started to this that i've become too used to fun people in my life- when I meet someone 'average' i'm bord out of my fucking mind.

Thats bullshit if you've really mastered self amusement though and I know it.

Not much time for details now but here's the good parts- Had a HOT tinder date and after 2 bangs she's up for looking for 3somes with me and put her profile onto girls only.

Wednesday cold approached a chick whos new to London in the park, worked-out out with her Thursday, today had an epic 3some with her and old fwb.
Life is spicy again! Oral while she did a handstand-spreddie, so hot goddam.


To anyone going through a dry patch, KEEP GOING, STAY VIBY. And feel free to hit me up for a free consultation for coaching- only got 1 client right now.

I'd happily show you proof if it would benefit me in any way but I can't think of any? I don't think you realise but this post is hilariously ironic -

>>>Anyhoo, very much looking forward to drinking this weekend for the first time (properly) since the Fury Vs Wilder fight in February! 2 house parties in 1 day should be mad.

Disappointment- The new tinder FWB I'd slept with a couple times decided that she wanted to try something with a guy who wouldn't date her unless it was exclusive. We'd talked about her interest in open relationships and trying her first 3some so its bad timing but i'm sure we'll meet again.

Good gaming- did an approach while cycling home to a highhhh grade chick that should lead to a date.
''Hello, I'm interrupting your day quickly see if we might get along- you have by far the best walk I've noticed on this delightful road" (it's a horrible road filled with raggamuffins)

She's been in a 7 year relationship but seems confident and fun, did an instagram close and been chatting back n forth. Was one of those nervous first approaches of the day that got better as we talked.

Bad gaming- waved at a girl as she walked past but no words came out and she ignored me. LOL.

Met a new wing (through this forum) who's very good at keeping gaming fun, the way it should be. Got a date Thursday with a lovely French girl who after approaching told me she believes in fate in a slightly ominous voice, this will be interesting.

Tonight date with a Russian though tinder, a self proclaimed 'brat' on her profile but actually has good banter and seems intelligent.

Saturday massive party outdoors, Sunday I've booked another 3some with park girl and fwb, this will be the first repeat 3some I've ever had outside of a relationship, fun!!

Russian chick was mental, need to write up that up as a full story at some point. The 2nd threesome went great, all (consensually) recorded great wank-bank material.

Will attempt to post more soon.

Good to read your making the most of it and still getting some action while we can, albeit new restrictions on the way could be another game changer.

Its been a bit quiet in my manor. Have had a few interactions but nothing worthwhile to write about.

May have to try the online apps if the new restrictions hit hard.

Keep up the good work

Thanks mate. If anything, the 10pm curfew has made it easier to invite girls back and still get to sleep at a decent hour.

I'm more motivated to approach girls with masks now because my top two FWB I met with their masks on. Unfortunately my former favourite (of over a year) is trying monogamy for the first time, but TBF it's probably a good thing for my search for an open/3somes GF.

Got a smoking hot close from the gym recently, its motivated me going to post a mini gym-game guide.

Cant be doing with all that mask shit myself, although I get where your coming from, I saw a Blonde come into the pub with her mask on and I was transfixed by her eyes, she had stunning eyes and the mask made them the focal point, I was a bit disapointed when she took her mask off as the illusion was gone, her jaw was a bit too square for my usual taste, still worth a go if her bloke wasnt with her.

Made me think though, masks hide a multitude of sins, they might have a set of teeth like a row of bombed out houses.

Gym game guide, great idea, have had some success in Gyms too.

Had a hilarious shock Friday where I was having a lovely chat in Tower bridge with a Swedish masked 'bombshell' that turned out to be a 20-a-day smoker....

Such a great weekend of gaming with the weather being on point and meeting the fantastic Isildur1 from here. He's got next-to-no-approach anxiety on group sets which was very motivating we had fun with several 2 sets.
I also managed to close a hottie who was on the phone to her friend, havn't done that in a while. Opened with an authoritative "excuse me for interruping your call" then "If that isn't you're boyfriend then you're going to have to tell them a cute guy is trying to chat you up" *cheeky smile*

Best closes for me were a Brazilian who was waiting for a late tinder date, agreed meeting me was better than swiping on this guy haha. Also a Circus Arial instructor who's bendy AF who couldn't work her phone taking a picture that I opened teasing her on that, this week should be a madness with new dates!!

Dates dates dates!!! Daygame closes converted to dates, and I can feel my search for a new highgrade (bisexual/open) life partner becoming ever closer.

Circus instructor- Body is insane, face not so much, personality bubbly but has been badly affected by the lockdown due to lack of training. Will see again/probably FWB after lockdown, she had a 3some before but didn't have the best experience with it.

Dancer from tower bridge- Again, amazing body, but personality this time completely flacid. hadto carry all the conversation, although brought her back to mine when she was hesitant to bang I didn't push at all- can't see her as a FWB because just too dry, and shes not sexually free enough to be just a FB.

Instagram chess chick-
One of my irregular FWB sent over a sotry of her friend who was asking to play people on chess.com... oh you're a doctor and kinda cute? Ok lets play...
Here's the good bit- she's absolutely filter free. I'm talking, give Eminem level of fucks, no idea how she's not been fired for inappropriateness . Responded well to a meme I sent about 'eating ass' and effects on immunity so decided to go for the date which we did the next day....
Within the first hour she elaborated on her love for BDSM, a 'switch' into sub and dominating... jheeez. Big drawback she's not into chicks, but pro she's defiantly not the jealous type, and as an adrenaline junkie is actually up for my most hilarious paces to bang in public which i'll not state here hehe.
The actual bang was fun but i'll admit, knowing i'm slightly 'vanilla' compared with her normal taste gave me the first minor performance anxiety i've had in aggges. Powered through tho .

ZE German (tower bridge)- cute, hot, funny, smart.... virgin. Will put her on the back burner, although i've taken virginities of several chicks who wanted to 'get it out the way', she's looking for something more serious, at least for now.

Instant date tower bridge- Indian. Bubbly, fun, does Thai boxing 6x per week... interested to see her again.

Tinder, a few decent potentials but put behind DG closes.

DG Clients also been smashing it, just got a new one who's got potential to be a daygame master once we destroy his AA.

Off to train with a PT from my new gym, smoking hot/ripped but is seeing someone 'complicated' situation, lets see!

Good to read your getting some action in, in this climate.

Keep it up. (literally)

I just cant get motivated at the moment, this bollocks lockdown shit is getting to me now. I will bounce back next week (hopefully) and I can catch up with the 2 Bar Maids I was working on before the Anti socialising shut down. Both showing interest and both work at the same bar, should be interesting.

Haha thanks mate. TBF it's getting a lot of people down, but I've really been seeing daygame as a ray of sexy sunshine to girl that appreciate someone making their day better. Goodluck with the barmaids, if you want to make a trip to london on a weekend HMU!

Had a married chick on a bike the other day say if she was single she'd go for a drink with me in a heartbeat, she couldn't stop smiling haha. Then a hot ginger Mexican told me she's approached all the time over there but hardly ever in London (only been here since lockdown). Date with her booked Friday, tonight an actress from bumble, tomorrow (daytime) Indian chick mentioned^^, Saturday a chick I met while she was on roller skates, fwb other days/after the dates... Lockdown has rubbish for seeing mates and partying but there's pros to all cons.

Cheers VibeSpreader for the tips from last Saturday afternoon. You gave me some useful feedback on unhelpful behaviours I was exhibiting, which I was otherwise completely unaware of (notably aggressive subcommunication and unusual feet posture, amongst others). I liked your upbeat attitude, which makes a pleasant change from some other experienced wings/coaches I've had, and thus makes a scary experience a lot easier to handle.

I've not been given this in-depth feedback in a while (since I got coached by Project Tusk), so it was a great experience so here's my shout out, and look forward to the next time! :)

Z

Thanks may well do.

Good advice the 7-38-55 rule is rarely recognised. 7% is communicated through spoken word, 38% through tone of voice, and 55% through body language.

Its good to read someone recognised it.

My body language has generally been off with girls historically, but it's helpful to reveal why my results are still way below optimum atm in daygame. Lots of bad habits to break, which I hope with progressive recognition (from a decent coach) will help.

That's a misinterpretation of Mehrabian's work.


Peace,

kowalski

No not really, thats it in its simplest form.

Unless you refere to the emotion in the verbal communication from the non verbal communication (body language) And when the two are not congruent, we will always believe the non verbal message over the verbal?

Cool mate, appreciate the compliment. You're leaving out that you had a decent 5-10 minute chat with an absolute stunner and closed 2 numbers after the session- big improvement in results are coming for sure!

I've had a crazy week few days building the strongest connection with a chick who's confidence, passion for life and banter is high grade. Met her while she was kickboxing with a friend, opened because i'm genuinely interested in getting a new Muay Thai coach, then her strong af eye contact and banter caught my attention. Was great my wing also closed her friend.

In only a few days we'd VM'ed back and forth daily, couple short dates with lots of location changes, then a 2hour phoncall till 3am. Literally so rare for me to like someone this much before the first bang, honestly nearly gave me performance anxiety ahahha. Chemistry is crazy good thank fuck.

Anways despite this intensity it's cool she's happy i'm not down for anything exclusive anytime soon, so i'll still be cold approaching/seeing FWB's but probably less dates with new chicks/look to escalate quicker.

I don't think i've ever seen Kowloski comment something that's not to get a reaction out of people aka trolling. If he wanted to add value/engage with you, he'd elaborate on what he said.

Love seeing breakdowns of communication, have you seen any of the youtuber 'charisma on command' ? Great breakdown with Jaden/will smith in group dynamics.

Well, once I can start consistently turning numbers from flakes/ghosts into actual dates then I'll be getting the results I want :) That's the main issue I've had for the past year.



To elaborate for Kowalski, I effortlessly found this link - https://www.businessballs.com/commun...body-language/

Fact: I’m the most helpful and most highly praised member of this forum ever.

You clearly haven’t read the studies. He basically showed a photo of an angry, happy or neutral face (only the face not the whole body and only a photo not in motion, the so to say body language is a stretch, it’s facial expression only) and played audio of a voice saying “maybe” in an angry, happy or neutral tone. Then he made very specific conclusions about those very narrow situations.

He did not prove anything about general communication nor did he claim to. That’s just what a bunch of scam artist idiots have interpreted it as and you probably picked it up from some of them.

Try going to maths lectures and getting 93% from facial expression and tone. You will fail the exam.

You could have googled that first and then you wouldn’t look like ignorant twats for doubling down... I guess that's my fault too. lol


Peace,

kowalski

Interesting but not surprising this stat wasn't based on much. The point remains non-verbals are very important. Trump wouldn't have got in office if without being on another level to Hillary in his gesticulation. Her fake smile in the debates was unbelievably cringe.

Had a FWB record a bunch of infield back in 2014 and it was useful af to see a couple things I could improve, same with audio. I've got an audio recording I show clients closing a chick while her date was getting her ice cream, with the premise being a threesome with my girlfriend (at the time) hahaha.

Shame how youtube has basically shadow banned infield. At the same time it's so cringy most of the time anyways... Anyone seen LAHWF? Brilliant exercises to get you out your comfort zone.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZqC8h9wh8M&t=290s

I wasnt refereing to his studies literally, I was using Body language in the broader sense, anything other than verbal is deemed Body language, this includes facial expresions too.

But as usual you have to try and belittle people, you yourself would be fucked without Google to give your pseudo superiority.

As you are so hot on Psychology literature you should look up the works of Alfred Adler and his superiority and inferiority complex works he describes you perfectly.