Hi guys,

I am new here and was wondering if someone can give me some advice...

Ok met HB1 and HB2 a few months ago they are friends of friends. So met them out I was pretty hammered and cant remember meeting them. Since then I have been going out every other weekend and HB1 has been there. About a month ago I kissed HB1 but I really dont find her attractive - I was just drunk and bored - but its back to just being friends thankfully as she has ALOT of hot friends. Since meeting her the first time we have exchanged a few messages on facebook but any time i send her a pm she replies on my wall...which i dont like. Suggested she comes out with us all and give her my number. She says yes but nothing ever comes of it and she doesnt give me her number. Since meeting them I found out HB2 is bi and apparently she didnt want me to know. She had a girlfriend (they split up a month ago).

So went to HB1 house yesterday evening and HB2 and other friends were there. Chatted to HB2 quite a bit and building alot of rapport and generally having a laugh. So go out to club and HB2 follows me around. Turns out she is going to London next friday for a job interview and staying the weekend at her ex girlfriends. She says her break up was good thing as they both didnt stay faithful.She says being with a woman just isnt the same as "the real thing". I say Im going to a friends bday party also on Friday night in London. She says to bring her to it. I say maybe. chat some more, we're getting quite tipsy with alot of reciprocal kino going on. Turns out we are both thinking of moving to London...she suggests we move in togther as it would be better than moving in with randoms and...."we could go and pull girls and have threesomes"!! What da fck?? HB1 comes over an interupts to say we are moving on to somewhere else. We walk to the club together my arm around her. HB2 brings up that HB1 likes me. I tell her I just see her as a friend as nothings ever going to happen. We chat some more. We get to the club and I like a muppet decide to go on ahead of her thinking she will come find me. She doesnt get in!!! Everyone else comes in and we stay there until end of night. I dont have her number so cant call her to see where she is.

I message her today on facebook saying bla bla what happened you houdini. She replies on my wall saying it was really good to see me. sorry I was really drunk, couldnt function and had to go home. I messaged her back 7 hours later saying the photos that were taken are they onhb1 or hb2 camera. that il see on friday if i have any time we may meet up. whats your phone number. No reply yet.

What da hell to I do next? Usually I can tell with girls what their intentions are, they are usually predictable but this girl just has me so confused!! Any ideas guys?!! I dont want to move in with her, that would obviously be a bad move lol. Any analysis of the situation would help.

Cheers guys

Not sure about advice but as I see no one else has posted anything yet - here's my thoughts. She sounds slightly confused herself I.e. confused by her sexual preference and not being faithful with her ex - so maybe that's why she's confusing to you.

I wonder whether you're getting a bit too hooked on one girl - i.e. getting to involved and letting it play on your mind. I know we all do it but sometimes it's good to take a step back and look at all the other fish swimming around. Sometimes I just have to accept that some people are confusing (they even confuse themselves) - it's not always down to something you've done it can be more with what's going on in their head, and just not worry about it to much and do your own thing.

Just my 2p

I'm with Mann here. Is it really worth your while focusing on one confused girl? What about the other 1001 girls walking around your town. It's time to get out there and meet them instead of getting bogged down.

P.S. Post up an intro about yourself, be good to hear more about you.

Cheers guys I appreciate your thoughts. Think Im just going to put it down to her own confusion.

Its not that Im getting hung up on her - I usually try and over analyse things anyway which is sometimes a good thing but usually bad!
Day later and still no reply from her. Not getting hung up on her just want to take things further with her and close.

Think I messaged her too soon also, should have waited at least a day I reckon.

Join the club. I guess everyone here must do that to some extent because the game is at least in part about (over?) analysing the process of pick-up.



From personal experience I find that it's easy to blame things on the little details, however, again, speaking from my experience, it's usually down to something more fundamental. I try not to get too hung up on the details - It seems to me that if you get the core stuff right and they're interested in you you can fuck up all the small stuff and it makes no difference. Try not to feel like your treading on egg shells. If something as small as messaging her too soon sent her off then It was probs very sketchy anyway.

I have in the past dwelled (not suggesting that you are dwelling on it ) on texting someone too soon etc. which puts you in a negative spin so now I try to not even bother about it or care too much and focus on other positives, knowing if it was a goer it wouldn't matter anyway.