Join the club. I guess everyone here must do that to some extent because the game is at least in part about (over?) analysing the process of pick-up.



From personal experience I find that it's easy to blame things on the little details, however, again, speaking from my experience, it's usually down to something more fundamental. I try not to get too hung up on the details - It seems to me that if you get the core stuff right and they're interested in you you can fuck up all the small stuff and it makes no difference. Try not to feel like your treading on egg shells. If something as small as messaging her too soon sent her off then It was probs very sketchy anyway.

I have in the past dwelled (not suggesting that you are dwelling on it ) on texting someone too soon etc. which puts you in a negative spin so now I try to not even bother about it or care too much and focus on other positives, knowing if it was a goer it wouldn't matter anyway.