Ok guys so last night i went sarging with my wing and we went to a small club, i was able to number close a girl however, she wanted me to k - close her but pulled away because shes, ' on and off ' with her bf.

so me and my friend we enter the club and to be honest it was dead, but there were girls sitting around the edge of the dancefloor at the tables, now really this was perfect, because anything anyone did would be spotted out by anyone in the club. before it got busy me and my friend decided to get on the middle of the dancefloor and take control over the club before anyone else had the chance to dancing away, we were the center of attention, everyone looking, laughing, pointing, but hey ! any attentions good attention right ? the best thing is wed never paid any attention to any girls.

soon enough everyone in the club were dancing along with us, we found our self surrounded with girls, but girls who were all in copetition with eachother. this was perfect, there was alot on the menu guys and we could have had anything we wanted.

so i see a girl who i know vaguely and she approches me i speak to her breifly without looking and the hb along side her who happens to be this stunning 9,

straight away she asks for an introduction from he friend and, so i introduce myself looking over my shoulder, give her a peck on the cheek and then she asks me how i know her friend ( lets call her hb7 )

Hb9 : so you how did you end up meeting hb7
cenzy : i dont know i guess one night she was just as you are , lucky enough to bump into me.
hb9 : hehe (big smile)
cenzy : so you just going to stand there or you gona dance ?
hb9 : dance !

so we dance for a good couple of minuits and i decide to bring out a neg

cenzy : i like your shoes they are really cute
hb9 : thankyou,
cenzy : yeah i saw a few girls wearing them in town, must be quite popular these days
hb9 : oh no ! really, they arnt in here are they? i cant wear these again now
cenzy: right im off to go soicialise, mayeb if your lucky youl get to dance with me later (wink)

so for the next half hour or so im dancing with other girls guys just haveing a good time and, i know shes looking at me im just confident she wouldnt have met anyone and been as interested and she was in me. so im speaking some other girl and dancing with her and i see hb9 with this boy whos clearly a mug and offered to buy her a drink, she walks right past me with him to the bar and is laughing at him but looking over. and im not worried, because i know shes not thinking about anyone else but me.

so she comes back from the bar and i can see shes so bored with this guy feeding her compliments and asking her if she wants to meet up with him bla blah. he also has his 2 friends dancing around him and the hb9, i could see she felt intimidated by these 3 blokes, so i reach right into the group hold my hand out and she takes it, but not only takes it she squeezes it,i pull her out and just start to dance with her she puts her arms round me and thanks me.
she then holds my hand, i felt a ring so i lift her hand and the play the ring routine with the god and personatlity types, it goes down a storm, she then says to me, (commenting on her ring)

hb9: do you like it
cenzy: no not really it looks cheap
hb9: yeah it is , haha
cenzy: im thinking boyfriend
hb9 yeah how did you know
cenzy: because its cheap and tacky, here let me take it off, youd look better without it
hb9: ok but dont lose it
cenzy: il make a deal with you, if i lose the ring il buy you a new one a real one, however if i keep it safe for you, youl have to reward me ?
hb9: like how, a kiss ?
cenzy: perfect?

i then pinkie promised with her and she loved it.

i take the ring and put it in my pocket
later on after talking to her for good while making her laugh, etc, she had forgotten all about the ring for the whole period we were talking and said

hb9: oh shit! have you got my ring
cenzy: of course, here 9 (i show her)
hb9: oh good can i have it back ?
cenzy: of course we had a deal

i give the ring back and she kisses me on the cheek, i refuse to accept this as a reward and she knows it so then kisses me on the lips, i still stand there as if im waiting and she looks me in the eyes smile and says i hate you ( in a playfull way

cenzy: whys that is it because all you can think about is kissing me
hb9: ( she just smiles and shakes her had, she had nothing to come back with)
cenzy: well am i right ?
hb9: you so so right, but i cant because im good, i dont cheat (shes not with her bf, i think he just has her rapped around his finger and just calls a break whenever he wants to go off shagging aorund)

ok guys ive writted alot and i do apoloigise, basically the night carrys on conversation keeps flowing and she keeps going to kiss me and pulls away, she was complimenting me constantly and just could stop looking and smiling at me, so i thought mybe shes waiting for me to make the move so i took control and went to kiss her our lips were touching but she didnt follow through with a full on snog. i mean the girl loved me but i was jsut unable to get her to completely forget this guy in her head, i know shes spending the dayw with him tonight in london, now would this have anything to do with she didnt want to feel guilty today, as shes having to see him. im unsure, anyways i number closed her and she said shed txt me . i know i need to improve slot but just wanted any opinions what maybe i should have done differently let me know guys and, sorry for all the writing!

cheers guys

cenzy

FREEZE OUT....FREEZE OUT....FREEZE OUT....she was fucking with you because she knew you wanted it. she kept "wanting" to kiss you because she was testing you. And you failed. Plus, I think you should have bounced after you delivered the neg about the shoes.

ok cheers guys i see where i went wrong, so is there any chance of turning this around or not ? what would you reccomend i do ?

Fukin A Jaz !

Just when i need that little pick me up , Jaz is always on hand with some pebble of inspiration !

That's all lol

Dude there were more positives than negatives to the sarg. Do not look on this as a failure it is just feedback, imagine she may be with this other guy tomorrow but her mind is well and truly on you... look on this as a great practice sarge with lots of positives and there will be many more great experiences like this that will make you better and better at sarging...

Do you know anything about anchoring in the peripheral vision? If you get another chance or something like this happens again when the HB says they have a bf I sometimes come back with "Bore-Friend? You have a Bore-Friend? I bet the only time that he pays you any real attention is when he thinks that... (slight pause) YOU ARE BORED WITH HIM (slight pause) NOW me I don't have those problems.

When talking about the bore I would make a movement on either her left or right periphery with your hand and when talking about you do this with the opposite hand. This will allow you to anchor negative feelings to the bf and good ones to you.... This is something that you can fire off at a later date too...

I would only add that to be consistent with positive and negative anchors. For example, I always use my right hand with positive anchors in the periphery, and my left for negative. Just always do it the same way and you'll be good.

You know I was going to state this in my earlier post but I wanted to leave it open for left/right handed people who may naturally pick their dominant hand.... but you are right pick one and be consistant with it is best...

ok cheers guys, your help is priceless, i just cant wait to go out sarging again !