Went to a work conference yesterday in London. It was in a university campus so there was quite a few hotties around.

Was having a smoke outside the conference hall before it started and spotted a hot Greek looking girl with long dark hair, in a short skirt and green lace tights, sitting at a bench smoking and tapping on her phone. She looked like she could be single, if that makes sense. I hovered for a bit but didn't approach her. I bottled it and went to talk to some of my male colleagues instead. I didn't know if she was with our lot or a student. But that should have been my opener "hi, are you here for this event?". Fuck!

At the break I wandered into this student canteen to see if I could grab a coffee. A hot blonde girl with a bit of a spotty face and amazing blue eyes was walking towards me. She made eye contact and smiled at me and I smiled back, we both turned our heads to keep eye contact as we passed each other. Annoyed that I didn't say hi and try to engage her. With hindsight it would have been easy "oh I'm lost , where do I get a coffee, blah blah".

After the event finished I went outside for a smoke with a male colleague. The hot girl in the green lace tights I'd seen earlier in the day was smoking and chatting to a bloke. She was talking to him but looking at me. It just made me feel worse that I hadn't approached her earlier when she was on her own.

My excuse for not taking action is I was a bit jaded after the weekend boozing. I was paranoid my colleagues would see me approaching 'strange women'. But at least now I'm seeing the opportunities in front of me. I just need to act in the moment and stop thinking and worrying what other people think.

You need to stop being such a pussy, man up!

One of the problems is that you don't have an experience of the buzz you get when approaching hot women in the day. Because you've never had this buzz, you have nothing to compare to that gutting feeling you get in your core, the gutting feeling is all you have.

I know what that's like. For me it was that I'd never go full on & directly during the day. But now that I am doing it I'll never go back to the way I was. I do still miss out some, but I'm still going for a lot.

Trust me, the buzz is better than feeling like shit.

Take action. You will NOT regret it.

Dan300 calm down. You are so angry and self righteous on here. Chill. Doing yad stops and them walking off is hardly grounds for you to start being patronising.

It's not meant to be patronizing. I'm hoping what I said will spur him on to start going for it.

Passion for action. I like it.

Here's a quote from my first post on the forum in August last year:

"So far I've only done one (sober) daytime approach in a book shop near where I live. It was going really well until her phone rang. She ended the phone call with "I love you". Then apologised to me for her phone ringing and said she had to go. But my heart was pounding out of my chest with adrenalin for a half hour afterwards and I felt good about myself. I want to try it more and am prepared to try to tackle the fear aspect."

My goal is that by August this year an approach like that is just bread and butter to me. I'm much closer to it than I was then in terms of confidence and self-belief but in truth I've only done a few sober daytime approaches (see my short daygame thread).

That's why I started this new journal. I don't want to be differentiating between this game or that game. I don't even want to use any PUA terms any more. I just want to be chatting to girls wherever and whenever there's a chance to do it, even at work.

I was viewing some flats for rent in the city tonight. Will be looking at more over the coming weeks.

I'm moving into the city to be in a place where there will be lots more opportunities than where I am now. I really want to get this down.

Moving to Belfast was the best big decision I've ever made.

That's another thing I can't imagine you regretting.

You have a pretty good idea of all the things you want to do. I'm pretty sure I'd be right in thinking you have a vision of where you want to be in life, now you just have to do it.

Reminds me of myself 2 years ago.

In a way it's crazy I'm even contemplating this move for quite a few reasons. I thought I was finished with moving. But I've got excited and scared about the thought of doing this.

I've been mulling it over for the last year and don't want to have any regrets in the future about not giving it a try when I had the chance. The last time I made a big move I never regretted doing that.

At the first flat I went to view last night a couple were there to view it at the same time. The bird was really cute, Spanish I think. When the agent was showing us around I said to her we could share the rent and I'd sleep on the little sofa bed in the living room and I'm a good cook. She was giggling. Then her bf dragged her away from me.