its been a while since I last posted something proper on here, so here is a quick update.

I have been seeing a sexy, funny, creative and intelligent redhead since April and the way I got her, was not even to try or think about it, I JUST HAD FUN AND SO DID SHE, the tension built to it's natural conclusion and when it felt like it was time to make a move, I moved and didn't think or became Self-conscious.

right now I'm in an extremely happy place in my life. In all my previous relationships I'd obsess over losing the girl and would ultimately self sabotage, but now I don't think about it, instead I stay in the moment, and any thought we may break up only makes the being present that much more precious.


So how i came to this point, well this is where you lot come into it...

Firstly, I would just wanted to say thanks to everyone on here, even if I haven't had much in the way of direct contact with everyone individually, you all did your part through your posts and their resultant discussions, from these I have gained a lot.

I would like to directly thank shahanshah and Jynx, D!CE, WES, also Kowalski and the rest of the thursday night improve crew(sorry if i missed a few names out)!! Although I only came to two of the improve nights, they helped me rediscover my funny side, remained me that all of this should be fun and its not even remotely serious. I have since done a stand-up course and ended up doing two gigs, one went really well and the other I absolutely died on my arse, but i still enjoyed it.

I think the whole ethos and atmosphere of this forum is really enlightening and it has moved me away from ego based learning, falsely bolstering my ego with boasting and becoming a textbook PUAzealot.

One of most powerful things i have rediscovered since joining this forum was the blueprint decoded. It was the second time i had watched it in 4 years. Initially I remember it being awesome and i can remember trying to go direct whilst being "egoless" to try and get the girl. needless to say it didnt work.

I didnt quite grasp it fully at the time. It is very much like ZEN and TAO, in that, while I was still outcome dependent (read attachment/desire), the harder it was to grasp, it was like water, the faster I tried to close my hand to grasp the water the quicker the water escapes, but on the second visit, it flipped tons and tons of switches. I also went onto look up the power of now by Eckhart tolle, thanks to tyler durden/owen cook.

The other really powerful thing i have to thank this forum is introducing me to youtube clips of Alan Watts. From him and his lecture on Zen and Tao, i have begun to gain a much greater perspective on life. I now meditate/sit in Zazen for at least for 30 minutes a day, this has benefited me greatly in terms of my inner calm and presences. I have recently attended a Zazenkai at a local zen Sangha, though am not a convert (there is nothing there to convert to), in fact am a strong atheist, i enjoyed it tremendously

now i dont really think in terms of "game"/"Pickup" anymore i have much more holistic approach on life and 95% of this is down to you guys on here, so once again THANKS A MILLION LIRDS

^ This is exactly what I mean!!! Kowalski you are a hero and you live up to all the hype, When i get the money together, expect a visit LID ha

also that song was pretty INCREDIBLE!

Really happy to hear about this mate! Glad that you've taken what needs to be taken from PUA and not the opinionated bullshit that gets thrown around. You've been yourself and you've found somebody that loves you for it, congrats bud.

I skim read it and will go over properly after my shower but something productive came from improv????

Fucking awesome on all your shit Ryan!

I was in it for the money.

@Ryan, its great you've found what you were looking for, some people never do!

And keep doing gigs, so I can come watch one of them when Im back up north in the summer.

It's summer now?

It's the closest to summer we see over here, stop bragging just because your enjoying the beautiful Spanish weather.

Bastard.

after the summer*

And it'd be cool to see a journalling or field report of how you got your arm candy Ryan.

Like where, when, how, the whole adventure of it all.

I met her on a night out....

prior to meeting her i had just finished listening the blueprint decoded for the second time in about 4 years and i was determined to just stay in the presence, not feed my ego, and be authentic (ta kowalski tagline)

My friend alex was leaving liverpool and flying to Canada to work for the next year or 2, so we (me and my lab mates) sorted out a leaving do for him. it was a last minute thing, as he had already had two leaving do's that week, so we ended going for a curry and then out for drinks round town afterwards, it was very casual as we all went out after we'd finished in lab.

My mate steph's boyfriend jay, who is a bit of a mate (as he had come to finland in the previous February with group of us from lab) was also out (not with us), he was meeting up with a few of his classmates for a reunion from his degree. At some point he and his mates (three girls, Sarah, Jacqueline and Elaine) came to meet us lot in the shipping forecast(liverpool). Jay came over to introduce the girls individually to a few of the group. I was pretty engrossed in an intense game of table footy, so i only came over after the fact.

Now Jay introduced me like "and this guy you better watch out for him, he's a lady killer", I think I cracked wise and made a joke like "no, I'm actually a lady killer, i made bail last week"(or something similar) they laugh, am a hero, sound! Jay then introduces each of the three girls,

This is sarah she blah blah
This is Elaine she blah blah
And this is Jacs she is a really maneater, a genuine sex predator

which one was I attracted to?

So, I start speaking to Jacs and we really gelling well, we had a lot of fun and was laughing for most of the time. She was wearing a bowler hat, which in the course of the conversation got deemed a SEX HAT and she was a SEX HAT ASSASSIN , I ripped her and she took the piss out of me.

At that moment the two groups had integrated nicely, the conversation was flowing, as was the drink(i was only having soft drinks at the time). Then two mates who are into pick up as well came over, mark (not sure if he posts any where) and Abdi (used to post on lovesystems or something). I give it the whole DHV intro to the group blah blah. At this point I was the social epicenter of three different groups ppl, this all happen by accident, but every just seemed to flow with no real effort, I didn't think and i just had fun.

after about an hour the energy seemed to ebb a little bit, so i decided we should have a venue change, i had everyone a chanting for santa chupito and literally lead the three groups (which had converged into one) to santa chupito's.

Me and Jacs traded coy looks and ended chatting again, I had my arm round her at points and she would place her hand on my chest, previously I would this kind of intermediacy, would have light up all kinds of thoughts like "IOI" and "turn PUA power to over level 9000", but i just enjoyed it and really stayed in the moment, there was no ulterior motive, I was just there experiencing it.

She is really sweet girl and we have a lot of fun together, but I had to get off cause i was up early the next day (it was about 2am at the time). but before i left I told her I'd add her on facebook and the next time we are all out i let her tag/geg in on the night out

Part 2 to follow soonish....

p.s. she has told me she wanted me from that first night, she said there was just something about me, i was dead funny and confident as well as social. oh and i was a proper fella

Awesome! That's what a lot of this comes down to, i think, being able to be social in a flowing way versus a contrived or effortful way.

And leading too.

I say that Im a fucking mess on my nights out and is a sticking point I think!

Anyway, what I really wanted to post about was; hahaha that lady killer joke made me laugh, I can imagine the cheeky scousy way you said it too.