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Originally Posted by kowalski
I don't know if it's specific to the UK. Personally I don't send sexual stuff if we aren't already fucking.
Stop trying to get numbers for a bit... maybe forever.
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Kowalski thank you for your reply. Are you doing game in Englad, where?
I don't try to get the number of the girl, i try to enjoy and get to know the girl. i'm asking why the girls never reply to text message, if they reply is just something short and brief. This happen even if the interaction is solid; it does not happen just to me and just with woman. It seems that is impossible to have a normal interaction with a british guy too, with a man, with colleague from work or people that do sport with you. And this happen to a lot of people not british that i know.
I am interested in knowing the social dynamics in England, so what is the point, why the people do that: are they shallow, they prefer to interact only with british ?
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Originally Posted by kowalski
I don't know how you are touching girls but if you are touching them right then you'll know which ones will kiss you etc. So kiss them, then stay with them and keep getting to know them and their mates until you end up in bed together or your groups go their separate ways. Just exchange details with girls when you have to part.
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I don't understand what are you saying.
You go out, you know a girl, you like her, you and her enjoy the interactions, so things go well and you kiss her. Perfect. This if you can take the interaction from the approach to the closure in few hours, during the same day.
If not, you have to exchange the number with her and text her and organising a date later on. So is my main question, why they don't reply (even if the interaction was solid)?
What are you suggesting, i am not following you: how do you stay with them, kiss them, get to know them if they never reply and you don't see them again?
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Originally Posted by astroboy
LOL, looks like you have now learned about the stage of Flaking. This has nothing to do with England or whatever part of the world. It's simply a reality of cold approach.
While your approach might be solid, there is a natural rebound effect when those good emotions of your interaction wear off. And builds her own internal resistance to continuing an interaction with you. Such as thinking are you safe? Does it mean she is easy? So this is normal.
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Thank you astroboy. I know what is a flake. And i can recognise it. I know when an interaction is solid and where it will go nowhere. I can accept flake, but they can't be all flakes. and why this behaviour happen even with the men then?
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Originally Posted by astroboy
One thing that might help with flakes is exchanging Facebook or instagram contacts. Although I'm sure getting a phone number feels more "official" and like you closed on something. But the objective is not to get numbers, but to build a connection that leads to something romantic. So its a means not an end. I mean often when you get a number, usually you just text back and forth for a bit. And most people have their facebook or instagram app loaded on the phone anyways so they get messages instantly. These days very few people make calls.
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I agree the objective is build a connection that can leads to something. I have never said the goal is getting the number.
I tried both with number or facebook. When i talk about texting, i mean with number (whatsapp) or facebook. And i don't notice any difference.
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Originally Posted by astroboy
Part of the rebound effect I think that comes from cold approach, her sense of logic comes in that you are a stranger. And she doesn't know if you are a psycho killer or just some lonely loser who put up a good show for her. A facebook contact shows more familiarity about who you are and who she is. She can then see things about you that you are a regular cool guy. And who knows might even know mutual people (That can be a good or bad thing). Plus you can now do voice and video calls via facebook as well. So actually gives you more opportunity to communicate than a phone number alone.
Give that a try and see if it helps any.
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i agree and i already use facebook. I communicate with text, pics and emoticons.