I disagree. In the back of my mind I do have an outcome in mind, which is this: I can get away with this. I don't have the same hang ups as noobs do. Not putting down the noobs, just pointing this out.

However, initially I don't approach her with the thought in my mind, "What do I need to do to fuck her." Why? Because first I want to do a couple of things: Find out if she has anything between her ears (brains and a British accent are very sexy to me). If she has corncobs between her ears then it may not be worth my time. I want to develop deep rapport with her, so I ask her questions that get to the core of her being to accomplish this. If I was only thinking about sticking my dick in her, this wouldn't happen.

Let me know if I made myself clear, if the distinction is clear. If not, I'll be hapy to polish my thoughts up.