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Originally Posted by theywannabeme
“Happy christmas and new year!
Just wanted to say I finally understand what you were saying in our last conversation, and it’s fine by me now. I regret how i acted out of character and apologise for that.
I’d love to tell you about all the new things in my life when the time is right”
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Realise that this part ^ is you trying to tell her what you think she wants to hear in the hope that you can get her back. It is therefore in effect a lie, because it means explicitly that you are
not listening to her while implying that you are.
You are lying to her to try to get her back, and to yourself so you can keep the dream alive and thereby keep the pain of accepting the rejection away.
You have kept reopening this wound so you are already making it ever more painful for yourself and it's becoming masochistic.
We all have these stories in our pasts but at some point you have to make the conscious choice that even if you want to contact her every day, that you won't because it's better for both of you not to.
Then you can grieve properly and in time let it go.