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Originally Posted by Phenom
The book is generally aimed at men who have grown up and developed co-dependency tendencies in their relationships (with women in particular). It helps look at the reasons these tendencies are formed (often in childhood) and how they effect later life. It then helps men to break out of the co-dependent cycles and deal with the underlying causes of them.
It could be that these are issues you have never had mate. The book won't be for everyone because not everyone's trouble with women stems from having developed co-dependency issues.
One thing I will say is I'd re recommend Rollo Tomassi - The Rational Male.
I've read this book a few times now and I learn something from each reading. Rollo gives a very real often harsh explanation to inter gender dynamics and sexual evolution. I found it very much like the red pill in so much as what has been seen cannot be unseen. If I ever have a son I would give him this book on his 18th birthday because it is something I'd have loved to have read for the first time at that age when everything seemed so confusing. It certainly doesn't have all the answers and there are a few things that I disagree with but it's certainly an excellent compass for navigating the often stormy seas of men and women's relationships.
Most of the content of his book can be found of his blog in the 'Best of Year One' section for the cheapskates among you. |
Thanks Phenom, I'll look into getting Rollo Tomassi - The Rational Male.
I much prefer audio books, since I can listen to them for a good 2 hours a day when walking my dogs. Just had a skimmer through torrents and can't find any audio versions so, paperback it is.
I'm not sure if I haven't had any issues raised in No More Mr Nice Guy, I've had relationships, they've ended, I will likely assume that I do have some of the issues raised, just not to a similar scale as to the book shows. 1 major feeling was that everything seemed to be coming from the point of the relationship is in place and basically, how to help people not mess the relationship up. Whereas, I'm single and felt a lack of connection from this book due to the fact that it was coming from an angle of a relationship had already formed. Though this wasn't the only factor. My relationships have been healthy in the long run. I don't feel like many of the issues raised relate to me but, some would also counteract that by saying it's denial.
I simply don't know. But one thing is for sure, I've changed a lot of myself this last year, including the way I act around people so in some ways, what I was like in my past relationships should be thrown out the window. I've changed too much as to rely on evaluations from relationships that finished nearly 2 years ago. Once I'm in another relationship, maybe it'd be wise to re-read No More Mr Nice Guy again.