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Originally Posted by Shahanshah
If you live in a city you can manage three nights a week. One night, as I mentioned, to socialise for a few hours and be home by 12am or 1am. Or at least friday and saturday. Might sound harsh but you're 32 and a virgin, how can this not be important enough to put some time aside a few times a week.
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I don't live in the city, about 8 miles outside it in the country. Fri & Sat are really my only nights; the rest of the week isn't feasible given I'm generally in bed by 10 for a 7am start at work.
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Originally Posted by Shahanshah
Top Hat's idea is a good one too. Still though, PUAs are everywhere because in every population, area and demographic there will be a roughly similar percentage of Autism and social deficient people (Lol). So you can find wings if you put in the effort. Messaging people etc. Searching "Aberdeen" in the Search bar of all the places.
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Yeah, I have thought about giving online dating or Tinder a go again, but my first shot on POF really didn't go well at all, I messaged 34 women and received 0 replies but a lot of that could be down to my profile or pic. I'm not going to go all Stonecastle on here as I know its worked for guys on here...but I think a lot of onlne dating IS looks based; I'm admittedly average-below average looking at best and as the ratio of men is usually higher than women on these things, they have plenty of other options instead of me. A female friend who is admittedly smoking hot had 275+ guys message her on POF......she only replied to 4 of them and from that 4 she went on a date with 2 of them. A girl i worked with had about 80 guys message her within 2 months...stuff like that doesn't really fill me with confidence, but I'd be willing to give it another go.
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Originally Posted by Shahanshah
Or making and finding new friends who might be up for chatting up girls rather than 'pick-up'. As for looking for Wings in Aberdeen, does anyone have a list of British PUA sites? I put some effort into searching online for this the last couple of days and other than unearthing a few threads that are years old I've found nothing. |
Well yes, there is this. How exactly would I do this? I'm already in a relatively large social circle where pretty much everyone is taken or has no interest in picking up women or going out to chase tail.
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If it really isn't that important to you, being a 32 year old virgin, then why are you on here, why did you start this thread? It doesn't have to be THE most important thing you focus on where you pay attention to nothing else but you gotta put some work in. You got to get laid. If it really isn't a big deal then I'll stop posting advice, advice of the reality of your situation.
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I never said it wasn't important to me Shah, I get exactly what your saying: I need to get out & meet women. But you ned to flip it round. Your young in your twenties; I'm 32 with a social group that is well on their way into adulthood and being grown up; there is a difference. Everyone is already with a significant other for a period of average 5 years. Also, when you get to 32 and probably before this age - people really stop caring about going out for nights on the town. They are too busy saving their money to pay for their morgage and life related stuff - going out on the town starts losing its appeal once you hit your late twenties.
I appreciate the advice, I never said it wasn't a big deal - but if I'm honest right now I'd put career & housing ahead of women on my list of important things. As is stands, short of meeting a group of single guys who like to go out, my experiences with this will be on an "as and when" it occurs basis.