Wow, why do I feel like Ive just submitted the first draft of Mein Kampf? I wrote that article with a view to it being irreverent and fun, instead I'm challenging people integrity, talk about hitting wide of the mark. Listen, the title was the art of small talk, not 'Mastering the female mind' not 'A shit hot opener', and most certainly not 'The definitive guide to getting her out of those panties and into your bed'. The way some of you are reacting, its like I'm trying to hawk copies of 'Fuck Yourself Skinny: The Reality TV Diet - You'll be getting so much poon you wont have time to eat!'. For the record, Ive never seen an episode of Essex Chelsea ETC (And I should have given my brother has been a director on both of those shows), I'm merely saying that sometimes it can be helpful to align you interests (even if only for 30 seconds) with the very people your trying to succeed with, fancy that!

It seems some of you are just operating on blind confirmation bias principles. Ive trawled a few articles and the most popular ones seem to be offering the same advice that The Game was peddling ten years ago. The accepted collective wisdom of the forum seems to be:

Act Alpha.
Approach until exhausted and it becomes second nature
Look as good as you can.

Now I don't mean to offend, but Neil Strauss wrote TWO books that Cliffnotes could have summarised using those three sentences (Or there abouts, lets not forget the first one was also a hugely enjoyable read). Well, guess what, I already do all those things, and I'm pretty damn successful at what I do, but I'm by no means perfect. Why not try something new, break some fresh ground, there's no harm in trying and chalking it down to experience. If someone here is approaching and closing with a 100% record then shit son, Ill quit the day job and start selling his book door to door this very day. I'm not interested in remaining competent, I want perfection, which means being prepared for all manner of situations.

Ultimately, this has gone a little deeper than I first intended, but its a straight fight between exploratory thought and confirmatory thought. IT seems any ideas peddled that are new and a little alien to some of you are dismissed as they dont conform to the ideas you've all studied over the last decade on how to pick up women. Best case scenario you're creating a cookie cutter shaped impression of yourself that while has indeed bred some success is by no means fool proof. If you're all playing the same game, someone is going to lose. Explore and evolve, but more importantly keep an open mind, and always always stay fresh.

Did you know two thirds of all adult conversations are made up of gossip of some kind, and that furthermore its primary function is the building and maintenance of social relationships. Think about that next time you dismiss the trivial 'who's fucking who's' reported in the Mail as integrity damaging.

Not that anyone cares, but my only exposure to the cast of any of these reality shows is what I read about them, but admitting you know who someone is hardly makes you a loser, AND even if it does, hell, Ill play that loser card, Ive done it before. The difference is you do it on your own terms when you've already established yourself as being someone who is comfortable with who they are and doesn't give two flying fucks what people think. 'Matthew McConaughey Rom Com's are like crack rocks to me' is a line Ive used countless times, always gets a laugh. Id actively develop a willingness to not take yourself to seriously, being willing to laugh at yourself and to share embarrassing stories is an attractive quality that breeds the bonds of great chemistry. I'm not saying tell every girl who'll listen about your deepest insecurities, but at the same time don't be bashful about discussing something that maybe isn't all that cool. Its humanising and more importantly funny, people like to laugh, just make sure you pick the moments that they laugh with and more importantly AT you.


Sorry if Ive offended anyone, shit Im a visitor here and didnt really intend to waltz in guns blazing, after all, he who shouts loudest doesn't have the biggest dick. I was simply putting something out there I found amusing/interesting with the intention of killing a few minutes of your day. Agree or disagree, that's fine, just dont be a dick about it. Call it a gut reaction to being dismissed without what I feel is any degree of fairness. Sure I can take 'fair enough , not for me dude' but to flat out say its damaging to your integrity is a little much to take. I'm at ease with who I am integrity intact, and jesus when a girl has nothing between her ears it is indeed a real turn off Ill agree, but I still want to create some rapport with said person, even if it amounts to little more than an illusion. Surely you can all understand that different people operate in different ways, self improvement is a long and complicated process that involves being open minded and trying things you might otherwise dismiss and find uncomfortable doing. You're a fool if you think you can make the entire world beat to the sound of your own drum, we all make compromises, but that doesn't for a second mean you are not being true to yourself. If by putting myself out there and trying to offer some amusing advice ive somehow become a bad person then fuck, guilty right here, at least I can feel safe in the knowledge that I havent poured over the words of someone who's opinions I dont agree with and dissected each sentence they've volunteered to further my counter argument.

Just for the record in case this has all been misinterpreted. I'm not saying all women watch shit TV and are hounds for gossip so verse yourself in it as best you can. I was simply volunteering that having a basic knowledge of it can be useful if you find yourself in a situation wherein its being discussed or brought up. Simple as. You're right, you could just say 'Fuck no I dont watch that shit' thats fine, you can lampoon them for doing so instead, thats good to. I'm just saying scratching the surface of something that you know a large portion of the population is interested in can have some positive outcomes further down the line. More importantly Im not saying YOU MUST DO THIS TO SUCCEED. I honestly dont know what drives each and every one of you, and I dont know what your motivation was for first signing up to this forum. I only know that I came here to learn, offer some pearls Ive found useful along the way, and to try and understand a few like minded souls outlooks on the world of social dynamics. I certainly didnt sign up with the intention of offending anyone or for that matter being dismssed for having an opinion. Sheeeit. Im sure you're all nice deep down.

Faust Out