I was at the gym today and it cleared my head. On the drive back it suddenly occurred to me what I think the root of the problem is. It's not the actual touching part, I'm quite tactile with people and okay with touching. The problem is I'm not taking the lead. I'm not initiating things. It's as if I'm waiting for the girl to give me permission.

On quite a few interactions I've noticed they'll touch my arm or hand at certain times when they're speaking. But even then I've been like a lump of wood...not responding. I'll need to force it a bit until I start to do it automatically. I need to practice this until it becomes more natural.