Stonecastle, yes men outnumber women on dating site but that in itself isn't a disadvantage. You're making it so by, for some reason thinking that these other men are better than you, therefore effecting your attitude which will have a negative effect not only on your profile but on your messages too. Resulting in you only having about 5 dates from 10 year usage.

As daleinthedark says, there's no difference other than there's no face to face interaction until you've set up a date. Attitude is key. If you come across and negative or boring straight away then what is that going to portray? Obvious really isn't it.